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Paint that Outrageously Inspiring Picture

2012-01-25T11:14:00.000-08:00

One of the many aspects of pastoring that I miss is getting an opportunity to cast a vivid vision and watching people take hold of it. Now, I have the privilege of celebrating with pastors and church leaders when their audacious vision for the new year and/or season in the church is caught. But I can’t keep myself from remembering the most exciting experience for the last church I led: our vision banquet. It was the most energetic evening of the year as we praised God for the past year’s victories and projected a bold and beautiful plan for the future. And, we all left that experience enthused and equipped to take hold of it.

If I know leaders like I think I do, there is frankly nothing more fulfilling than having the ability to launch a vision, seeing people unite around it and actualizing the reality of that courageous plan. Where ever you serve and lead, you really can paint that outrageously inspiring picture…with the right tools. Here are eight helpful aspects to presenting that critical canvas:

(1) Sense the calling of a cause that’s bigger than you. It’s got to take team effort if others will embrace it.

(2) See it vividly before you share it. It’s essential that you be thoroughly prepared to cast the plan. Consider getting around some story-tellers to help you share it effectively.

(3) Communicate a problem that can be solved together. Help your organization see their part in the big picture.

(4) Present testimonials of how working together is essential. Personal testimonies of teamwork can show how doable the vision can be.

(5) Make the vision visual by props and media. Without going overboard, include tools to make the vision come alive.

(6) Immediately recruit participants. Nothing communicates the urgency better than having a place to sign-up for particular teams! (And, maintian the integrity of the vision by quickly following up on all who sign-up.)

(7) Leave them with a symbol of the vision to help them remember their part. Something that they can put on their refrigerator, key chain or desk can be stimulus to action.

(8) Talk about it every week of the year. Vision leaks. So, keep it before the people visually and vocally.

The Most Important Person Your Church Can Reach This Year, part 2

2012-01-20T09:08:00.000-08:00

Patrick Morley said that there is a noble impulse to manhood inside every man. I believe that! The guys that I have met and have had the privilege of pastoring all have reflected a desire to be a good man, husband and father to their children. But men need community...a band of brothers that look out for them. The local church is meant to be where that accountability can be found. And, that place doesn't just happen because it's meant to. An environment must be created, cultivated and claimed as a safe place for dads with young families.

With that said, here are four critical points to consider when going after young dads:

(1) Reaching the young family man starts with what your church offers his kids.

Nothing speaks more quickly to the heart of a dad than what his kids enjoy. Energic, animated, safe and current ministry to children will keep them coming back. A secure environment for his children will yell positively at his protective side.

(2) Having a “man” day at your church is not a focus to reach young men.

Get real, church leader. This is not about scratching a proverbial itch. And, having a yearly focus on men without endeavoring to reach them on purpose throughout the year is like trying to swat a fly with a broom (it comes across too heavy too quickly without hitting the intended target).

(3) Décor and discipleship are golden when appealing to men. Evaluate the entire

look and feel of the church facility. Keep in mind these “v’s” for the worship experience: visual in presentation; vicious about time; vocal for strong themes. PowerPoint and props, starting and ending on time, and not being afraid to talk about tough subjects and calling for their commitment are the details of sustainable ministry to young men.

(4) The pastor is directly and indirectly the primary minister to men. Leadership is

the key. Ministry to men must be led from the top and promoted as the primary direction. And, even though all ministry cannot and must not be led directly by the lead pastor, their involvement is critical to its ability to thrive (and, in many cases to its survival).

David Murrow, from his book Why Men Hate Going to Church, said these strong words: “You cannot have a thriving church without a core of men who are true followers of Christ. If the men are dead, the church is dead.” Be challenged to read all you can about how to go after an effective young dad outreach. Go to a men’s leadership conference. Invest this year in making a course change and/or bettering your ministry to the fathers of your community. This ministry compass could become your church’s greatest asset.

The Most Important Person Your Church Can Reach This Year

2012-01-18T09:14:00.000-08:00

First off, to give a disclaimer to the title, I must say that every kind of person is valuable to God and should be to the local church. The following paragraphs are not meant to promote exclusivity. On the contrary, sharpening your focus on who you are primarily intending to reach could in fact draw more than exclude. Therefore, I believe unapologetically that the most important person your church can reach this year (and frankly every year) is…the young father. Dads, with kids still living at home, are more times than not the gateway to reaching and strengthening women, children and families. A well-known survey revealed that if a child is the first person in the family to accept Christ and join the church, it is a 3.5% chance that the rest of the family will follow. If the mother is the first, that percentage goes to 17%. But if the father is the first to accept Christ and join the church, the rest of his family will follow 93% of the time!

Secondly, there is a great cry from suffering generations to end the fatherless epidemic. The media has targeted the young male audience seemingly from every angle. Worldly pressure has always been to choose self and act irresponsibly to any role that becomes inconvenient. Society is stroking that vibe. However, anthropologist Margaret Meade said, “The supreme test of any civilization is whether it can socialize men by teaching them to be fathers.” There should be no better qualified institution to aggressively offer such training than the church. The body of Christ is the hope for the young family and consequently the culture.

A Prayer Against Ministerial Professionalism

2012-01-10T08:45:00.000-08:00

(by John Piper, from his book Brothers, We Are Not Professionals)

God, deliver us from the professionalizers! Deliver us from the "low, managing, contriving, maneuvering temper of mind among us" (E. M. Bounds). God, give us tears for our sins. Forgive us for being so shallow in prayer, so thin in our grasp of holy verities, so content amid perishing neighbors, so empty of passion and earnestness in all our conversation. Restore to us the childlike joy of our salvation. Frighten us with the awesome holiness and power of Him who can cast both soul and body into hell (Matt. 10:28). Cause us to hold to the cross with fear and trembling as our hope-filled and offensive tree of life. Grant us nothing, absolutely nothing, the way the world views it. May Christ be all in all (Col. 3:11).

Banish professionalism from our midst, Oh God, and in its place put passionate prayer, poverty of spirit, hunger for God, rigorous study of holy things, white-hot devotion to Jesus Christ, utter indifference to all material gain, and unremitting labor to rescue the perishing, perfect the saints, and glorify our sovereign Lord.

Humble us, O God, under Your mighty hand, and let us rise, not as professionals, but as witnesses and partakers of the sufferings of Christ. In His awesome name. Amen.

Leadership is Hard Work

2012-01-05T10:08:00.000-08:00

I have a personal passion for leadership, because I really enjoy leading people…really. For many years now, I have had an appreciation for leaders, books on leadership and conferences on how to lead better. I’ve even taught in some of those venues. There is just something energizing to me about the subject. And, with all of that interest and some experience along the way, I have learned that leadership is quiet difficult…all of the time. My definition for leadership is the ability to be one step ahead for the right reasons. This communicates the intrinsic responsibility of being ahead just enough to catch the future but close enough to connect with those who follow. Maintaining that “one step ahead” requires constant attention. The idea that leading people has some grandeur attached to it is simply a myth. It’s work to lead, hard work!

So, why is leadership hard work? Here are some observations:

Respect must be earned, not expected.
The level of responsibility is always greater, but not necessarily grander.
Leaders must be ahead in planning, but present for relationships.
Expectations must always be clear and yet concise.
Stress must be managed while keeping those you lead motivated.

Naivety in this regard will create dangerous blind spots in your pursuit to effectively lead others. It’s essential to remember that to a great degree our work is reflected in the people who follow us. And, the reward of such hard work is the development of people.

A Fresh Ministry Resource

2012-01-04T13:53:00.000-08:00

Ministry Leaders:

Want to get practical information into the hands of new Christ-followers this year? Check out RESCUED - a guidebook for new Christ-followers. It explains in simple form the basics for the Christian life: salvation, prayer, Bible, church and sharing your personal rescue story.

For more information on this resource, email shirley.ophus@okag.org or call our office at (405) 475-1190.

"...Jesus Christ rescued us from this evil world we're in by offering himself as a sacrifice for our sins. God's plan is that we all experience that rescue."

Galatians 1:1 (the Message)

Preparing to Climb (a Personal Growth Plan)

2011-12-29T10:40:00.000-08:00

Mountains have always been an interest for me. My wife and I lived amidst the beautiful Rockies for 6 years. Our son was born in the Denver area. It would take no time at all to make a trip up a little higher where the Aspen leaves shimmer and the air reigns naturally crisp. Though I’ve never personally climbed to the summit of a Colorado “14er”, some of my closest friends have and their stories are worth remembering. Sharing in their preparation both physically and in practical gear makes this analogy fit so well. They profoundly couldn’t make it even close to the peak without a plan…

Planning to grow personally is about putting yourself “out there” for God to use. Cooperating with God is primary in going to the next level of effectiveness. That being said, I so believe in grace. Without it, our lives are hopelessly trapped in sinful, selfish ways. But grace doesn’t work without a yielded heart. For the early disciples to catch the miraculous mess of fish, they had to obey the words of Christ and cast the net out on the other side of the boat. That's what it means to cooperate with God.

What is God saying to you? Do you know? How have you been challenged lately? View this in light of next year. I like to think of it this way: If I’m not growing, I’m not going. My life is static without the challenge to take it higher. Obviously, for spiritual leaders, this means that our prayer times dictate the next steps. So, let’s take that a little further: How can we plan to take those next steps throughout the coming year? This is where a personal growth plan comes in. Set yourself up for God’s grace to work success in your life in the new year.

Here are seven suggestions when considering a personal growth plan:

Having a personal growth plan makes growth more deliberate and even measurable.
A personal growth plan is not a list of New Year’s resolutions.
A dedicated time of prayer prior to writing out your growth plan is essential.
The more specific your growth plan is the more doable it will be.
Categories help specify your direction for growth.
Displaying your growth plan in a visible place can be a positive move…for a reminder and regular accountability.
How and when you are going to “do” your growth plan are as critical as having one.

Accidental progress is always hard to measure. Grow on purpose by planning on it and let grace do its work. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

The Crowded Christ, part 3

2011-12-20T10:38:00.000-08:00

One last thought on this blog series: What can we learn from the “crowded” life of Christ? Maybe for the Christ-follower, a life that is surrounded by others who have yet to accept His sacrifice is a primary key to contributing to His kingdom. The narrative of the Nativity is the “Christian” story. How it played out among the least and overlooked…who it enlisted…and where it was situated in that part of the world…reveals much about the Christ-life. And, His three plus years of ministry, as He walked on the earth, confirmed the purpose of His “crowded” life. Christ came to demonstrate an eagerness to press into the culture and influence it for the good. His very words to those choosing to follow Him lay out that message: “You are the salt of the earth.” Salt must be applied to be useful; it must mix well with the intended product to make a difference. Not into crowds? Think of your life as one on assignment to another not yet Christ-follower. Don’t be threatened by the “crowded” workplace with secular ideas or the neighborhood that’s marked by different belief systems. Choose to shine and be salty...and, do it during this Christmas season especially. Follow the pattern of the STORY and approach others in humility and service. Say the kind word, do the generous gesture, and go out of your way to express grace. Find the unusual comfort on the crowded magazine rack of life. Christ does!

The Crowded Christ, part 2

2011-12-13T09:22:00.000-08:00

In the midst of Entertainment and Hollywood magazines, the story is still being told. Seemingly crowded by the sagas of the Kardashians and the movie Twilight, the Life of Christ is being rediscovered. It never ceases to amaze me how His Life continues to rise to the top and even mixes well with the news of the day. That might initially rub you the wrong way. But take another look… The Gospels display the life of Christ intersecting with the heroes, hustlers and heretics of society. Mixing it well is what He was known for. From celebratory wedding parties to a house full of sinners, Jesus was found right in the middle as if to emphasis relationship over religion. Does it bother Him to look down and see His face among the many media-making stories on a magazine rack? “The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us” (John 1:14). He became flesh and dwelt among us…and them. That’s right. He couldn’t just show up in human form among those waiting for Him and not impact others. And, frankly, those waiting for Him expected a completely different set of circumstances surrounding His arrival. The mix of His Life was bewildering to those holding out for the Messiah. That’s because He made His dwelling among us and them! He made His mark because of where He was and what He did at the wedding in Cana and the party at Zaccheaus’ house. Bothered by His magazine story sandwiched among other popular stars? We should be bothered when He’s not in the mix.

The Crowded Christ

2011-12-09T10:21:00.001-08:00

On a recent trip to a bookstore in Dallas, I came across an eye-catching find – a crowded magazine rack with a very unique mix of topics. The initial feelings it solicited served a scalding insult, well-knowing that this is a true sign of culture, to crowd out the story of my Lord. But as I thought a little deeper, an inner prod challenged me to recognize a broader opportunity. How crowded do you think Christ feels in our present-day culture? Furthermore, how does the Son of God view where He is situated in the world at any point in history? Could it be that He’s not threatened by it at all? Rather, His perspective could possibly be more open than offended…

In light of the Christmas story, we see a similar setting: The scene is an over-populated town due to a Roman census being taken. As a matter of fact, the narrative narrows to that particular packed out inn. So, Joseph and the greatly expectant Mary settle down in a stable, and that’s where Jesus is born. Yes, He’s born into a crowded situation… But before any of us begins to feel badly for the Christ-Child, this very time and location were predicted hundreds of years prior. In other words, it was in God’s plan to be crowded! Think about it. More later…

Beautiful Change

2011-11-16T12:14:00.001-08:00

On a recent early morning walk, I witnessed one of the most unique sunrises as it lit up the Fall foliage on my neighborhood street. It's hard to argue that this season really is a beautiful time of year. The colors represent the yearly message of change. From green to gold, the inevitable takes form. And, one can forget how spectacular the transition of seasons can be.

The big word "change" can hold so many meanings that the very implications come across intimidating. And, yet, life is made up of going from one passage to another. It's really in how you look at it. Yes, I've faced some changes that seemed rough at the time. But with just a little fresh perspective, my attitude and approach to it turned more positive. Someone said it best with these words: "The bend in the road is not the end of the road unless you are unwilling to turn." So, the scenery has the potential of changing at every turn we are willing to take...keeping the journey interesting, to say the least. A number of years ago I put together an acrostic to the word "change" that has helped me deal with those inevitable seasons to frankly see them more beautifully:

C - Consecrate yourself. Set yourself apart unto God for the next steps.

H - Hold on to truth. Keep what's true about the situation at the forefront. Refrain from assumptions.

A - Accentuate the positive. Find what's good about the change and talk about it.

N - Never run from a challenge. Stand bold in times of transition.

G - Grow and grin. Allow the season of change to teach you and not trip you up.

E - Expect the best. Keep your heart focused on God's faithfulness and anticipate His best for you.

Take time to see change beyond the shock... Allow God to put a peace in your heart and you will begin to see the beauty in it all.

2011 MAIN EVENT Men's Conference Highlights!

2011-11-07T09:17:00.000-08:00

The Main Event 2011: Highights from Oklahoma District Council on Vimeo.

BEFORE

2011-11-02T10:18:00.000-07:00

Before you do this, you have to do that. That seems to be the order of the day. “Before” can be a complication or a necessity. Some responsibilities get muddied by more duties; others require it. (Before you sign...read the fine print.) Good daily evaluation asks what needs to be done now that will help me get where I need to be. It’s also important to know if there are any “shorter roads” to save time. In other words, one needs to identify the important “befores”. My heart was struck by the very significance of “before” in one of my recent Bible studies. Proverbs 18:12 says, “Before his downfall a man’s heart is proud, but humility comes before honor.” The essence of what happens prior…is communicated here in Proverbs as a spiritual concept. What we are doing now – how we think and behave – impacts our future. Personal, deliberate, regular beforehand analysis is really that critical. We cannot afford the attitude that says I just wasn’t thinking. It will cost us potentially more than we can pay – emotionally, relationally, physically, spiritually. The Grace of God will help you plan to succeed. Surrender to His help today.

Think about it...BEFORE you close this blog site out.

COLLABORATION

2011-10-20T10:01:00.000-07:00

I’ve come up with some great ideas in my lifetime. As a matter of fact, a few seemed quite original. And then there’s been the box-bursting ideas that have come out of a discussion group of guys working alongside of me. The energy and fun that fills the room and leaves with each of us have been priceless! There’s never been a better idea than what comes out of a team of minds working together. Frankly, your idea is not good enough… What I mean is that it takes more than just a good idea to work a project successfully. The thoughts and generating of more ideas to support the one, or that one idea, whether good or not, that sparks more or better ones is what gets the job done. Good ideas are never meant to exist alone. When was the last time you asked for honest feedback on a concept that was developing in your mind? How willing are you to get around some smarter minds in order to get accomplished something greater than what you can do on your own? You are only as smart as your willingness to open the opportunity for fair exchange. In other words, be smart by surrounding yourself with smart people. Proverbs 15:22 says, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” Insight, perspective, strength, intelligence… Let’s get together…and, let’s get it done!

Top Ten Reasons to Attend the MAIN EVENT Men's Conference

2011-10-07T11:12:00.000-07:00

10. Boxing theme and videos

9. Regulation boxing ring with live training and sparring from professional boxers

8. Manly graphics, lighting and kickin' music

7. Motivational speaker addressing real man issues

6. Late night and morning entertainment with hilarious comedian

5. Conference closing by noon on Saturday

4. Late night snacks and Saturday lunch included in the registration

3. Lots of cool giveaways

2. Time away for some manly conversation

1. Experiencing the strong presence of God with men from all across the state

For questions, please call (405) 475-1190 or email us at shirley.ophus@okag.org.

Online registration is availability at the link below.

http://www.okag.org/663504.ihtml

The Face of Forgiveness

2011-09-27T13:26:00.000-07:00

Elizabeth Elliot; Abraham Lincoln; Nelson Mandela; Corrie ten Boom; Martin Luther King, Jr. Every one of these figures dealt with the emotional and willful issue of forgiveness head-on! There faces are identified with reconciliation. And, so is the face of God...through His Son Jesus Christ. The Father's face was reflected in the beatened, bleeding face of the crucified Lord when He said while hanging on a Roman cross: "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing" (Luke 23:34). There's nothing more freeing and forward-thinking than deliberately embodying the spirit of forgiveness. On the contrary, there's nothing more damaging to a person's health in every dimension than knowingly or unknowingly harboring resentment toward another. We all need forgiveness and need to give it. But the difficulty is intimidating and the struggle keeps us from dealing with the implications. That's because it's a spiritual issue...which demands that we seek a higher power to enable us to grapple with what it means to forgive and how to carry it out. The biblical characters Jacob and Esau struggled with the emphatic need to reconcile with each other. And, they had to look up for help to "get there." As a matter of fact, it was such a spiritual experience for them that when Jacob received acceptance and forgiveness from his brother Esau, he said these words: "For to see your face is like seeing the face of God, now that you have received me favorably" (Genesis 33:10).

ARE YOU WILLING TO LOOK UP and receive help in this area of forgiveness?!?

AWAKE AT THE WHEEL 2

2011-09-13T11:54:00.000-07:00

I was a teen like many on weekends, who wanted to stay up and sleep in late. So, when I had to get up significantly earlier than normal when it wasn’t a school day, the struggle was on. One weekend I had gotten permission from my dad to go with some friends to a lake house a couple of hours away with the stipulation that I would be back in church for Sunday morning worship. Wanting to eek out every amount of fun possible at our recreation spot, I elected to wake up early and drive in. Needless to say, that decision could have been disastrous apart from a praying family. I fell asleep at the wheel…I mean really, with my forehead hitting the steering wheel kind of asleep. Waking up just in time to avoid a farmer’s field, it was an experience that injured my car as well as my emotions. I was able to drive home, but just the renewed knowledge of hurting more than myself with such careless actions was enough to fill me with guilt and embarrassment.

Since then, my occupation has put me on the road early mornings and late nights. But when my eyes have gotten heavy, it doesn’t take long for me to remember the feelings that came from my careless teenage experience. So, I’ve learned some very practical steps to employ during those potentially vulnerable times.

The same is true in leadership… If your hands are “at the wheel” at any time, be it parenting, pastoring, supervising or any level of oversight, staying awake is mandatory! Similarly to any road trip, leaders can take the steps necessary to be consistently driver-worthy. Because the many roles and responsibilities of life are at times so weighty and can dull our best intentions, working tools that assist us in regaining our focus is essential.

Three practices that can help keep leaders awake at the wheel:

SOLITUDE

Taking time to regularly break away from the “noise” to pray and meditate gives us the opportunity to sharpen and consequently embrace what's now and what's next. Find that quiet place today.

STUDY

Personal challenge and improvement must be continual. Get into Scripture to understand it better. Read information that stretches your thinking. Schedule your study!

SELFLESS ACTS

Serving others with no strings attached creates attitudes of humility and respect. Nothing seems to cause a deeper awareness of our earthly assignment as deeds of kindness. Choose to deliberately show tangible compassion for others daily.

With the ongoing demands of the day and the unique compounding pressures, staying awake at the wheel requires on-purpose work. For the sake of those you lead, stay awake at the wheel and get your family and/or organization to their respective destination points.

I’m praying for uncommon freshness and alertness at the wheel for you today!

AWAKE AT THE WHEEL

2011-09-07T11:02:00.000-07:00

In my travels from church to church, I’m continually blessed and intimately prodded by a “spiritual” group of people. I’m speaking of a church that expresses balance of love for God and others inside and outside the walls of the church. It seems that when I find this experience, ordinary men and women are demonstrating a hunger for God, His Word and Spirit. I’ve also come across churches that struggle with the love factor and exemplify an unfortunate coldness of heart. But I don’t have to go very far in mulling this over regarding either church before my focus sets on leadership. It goes without saying that whether the heart temperature reads red hot for God or lukewarm, a touch of God’s Spirit continually is the great necessity of the day. And among a body of believers, there is yet an awakening that is most essential. I call it AWAKE AT THE WHEEL. Joel 2:15 and 17 lay out this declaration: “Blow the trumpet in Zion, declare a holy fast, call a sacred assembly… Let the priest, who minister before the Lord, weep between the temple porch and the altar.”

Why is the most essential awakening to be among spiritual leadership?

In light of the fact that the leader is the one who has the wheel..., here’s four primary reasons why that awakening is most important:

1Everything rises and falls on leadership. In other words, any organization moves forward or backward in direct proportion to how they are led.

2Spiritual leadership is about moving people onto God’s agenda and His assignment for their lives. The work of spiritual leadership is holy and requires constant contact with the Source of the assignment.

3Spiritual leadership isn’t spiritual unless God is leading the leader. The only dynamic that distinguishes who the leader is and what he/she does is defined by who's leading the leader.

4Fresh vision is the one component spiritual leaders are in need of to keep God’s people moving in the right direction. Spiritual leader, here’s what we can’t forget: Yesterday’s direction cannot be the assumption of today’s purpose. Freshness is the demand from those who follow us and those who we endeavor to reach for Christ.

As spiritual leaders, being awakened by God's Spirit is critical to the safety, soundness and significance of our journey with others. Hey, reason enough...WE'VE GOT THE WHEEL!

INSPIRE

2011-08-29T14:32:00.000-07:00

The brightness of a smile… The attitude of “I can”… The heartfelt embracing of a challenging task… The new-found courage to try again… The growing enthusiasm to include others…
The byproduct of inspiring people. There’s nothing like witnessing the lid-lifting experience. Furthermore, there’s nothing like being the inspired.

I’ll never forget the words of a seasoned mentor in my life when trying to decide on whether I would accept a different, unique and challenging assignment: What can you see when you think about the opportunity? Though this sentence came as a seemingly nonthreatening question, it was penetrating and stretched my thinking as if my brain had elasticity. Bottom line – It INSPIRED me. It threw me into the situation as if I was already there. It made me think of it as something to be seized and not smothered. It helped me pack my bags when nothing else would.

What can you help others see? By nature, the negative will abound. But with a little deliberate effort, pessimism can be crushed by overwhelming possibility. Whether you are a parent, an employee, a supervisor, a pastor or simply a friend – someone needs you more than you know. Wake up their soul with something that will enable them to see what they can’t on their own. If you are being inspired right now, I’m doing my job…

INSPIRE – Help others see…

Promo Video for THE MAIN EVENT Men's Conference

2011-08-25T13:58:00.000-07:00

The Main Event 2011: Promo 1 from Oklahoma District Council on Vimeo.

THE MAIN EVENT Men's Conference - October 28-29, 2011 - for more info, contact our office at (405) 475-1190

In Over Your Head

2011-08-19T09:06:00.000-07:00

Have you ever been in over your head? Well, I have…and, in more ways than one. Many years ago, while enjoying the adventures of a youthful canoe trip, the vessel I was on (that I took too much confidence in) toppled. Falling into the murky river water, I immediately realized that I couldn’t touch bottom and…under I went. My swimming works when I need it to, but suffice to say, graceful wouldn’t describe it. However, before it got ugly, I heard a voice and saw an arm reaching towards me. When you’re “in over your head” trying to be cool normally won’t work if you are genuinely needing help. So, I anxiously yelled back and connected with the hand that was offered.

That’s not the only time I’ve found myself under and couldn’t seem to catch a breath. Tough situations have thickened at such a rate that before I realized it, the current swept me off my feet. Seemingly all of the techniques that I learned in the past didn’t hold sway to the forceful waves breaking over me. But, key relationships helped to pull me out, calm me down and get my equilibrium back.

Without those critical confidants, personal struggles can seem overwhelming, endless, and quite frankly can alter our perspective on practically everything. However, pride will keep you from asking for help. Pride will convince you that you can work through it on your own. Pride builds a false platform of self-confidence. When you’re in over your head, that’s not the time to “make your point” and remain dogmatic.

So, from personal experience, I might suggest to…realize that you need help beyond your current situation. In other words, someone who is outside of the condition (someone that’s back in the boat or on the shore) typically has a more unbiased perspective. Also, reach out to a trusted friend. Trust is critical for honest ears and even some occasional feedback. It’s important that the one you are reaching out to has your best interest at heart. And, finally, determine to receive the peace to know that you’re really not in this craziness alone. It’s amazing what coming to terms with that wealth of knowledge will do for you. Hey, it won’t be the last time you’ll need them or others. I don’t mind admitting that my hand will be reaching up again for some much needed help in the challenging waters of life.

What Would Happen If...

2011-08-12T08:12:00.000-07:00

What would happen if…you really believed God? What would happen if you stepped out in faith? What would happen if you tried something new? What would happen if you initiated the conversation? What would happen if you forgave the fault? What would happen if you wrote the story? What would happen if you loved again? What would happen if you sent the letter? What would happen if you read the book? What would happen if you said nothing? What would happen if you intentionally listened? What would happen if you made the visit? What would happen if you prepared the dinner? What would happen if you walked across the street? What would happen if you conducted the study? What would happen if you offered the ride? What would happen if you watched the video? What would happen if you taught the class? What would happen if you accepted the job? What would happen if you made the donation? What would happen if you volunteered your time? What would happen if you embraced the change?

“Faith without works is dead.” Our cooperation is as holy as God’s desire to work within and among us. Being willing to “do” what’s unnatural to our flesh is not only significant to God working through us, but necessary. God can do what we cannot, but He primarily chooses not to do what we won’t.
What would happen if…can only be answered as we step out. So, answer the question and dive into the realm of the impossible. Regret can be trumped by the righteous risk God is challenging you to take today!

Weight-loss for Churches, part three

2011-08-09T08:39:00.000-07:00

Notice…it’s the individual response of God’s people that bring change. You want a more healthy church to attend? Begin now to accept a fresh sense of responsibility to play your part (pastor or parishioner). Here are a couple more suggestions:

Serve out of obedience, not pressure.
If we aren’t careful, we say “yes” to service opportunities in order to please the leader who asks us. Fear of man creates unhealthy environments. For the leader, we teach the ways of Christ, not the standards of man. For the disciple and church attendee, we respond to serve out of a heart to please the Father and obey Christ. Keeping our heart engaged in the work of loving and serving others keeps our ego at bay…whether we are a spiritual leader or one just getting acquainted with the walk of faith. This by no means waters down the Christ-follower’s responsibility, but rather highlights it from the healthy motive. Feeding on the commands of God’s Word and the lifestyle of Christ (not the food of fear and pride) fills the Body with the right nutrients for abundant life!

Be involved in outreach to build the Kingdom, not your church.
Reaching out to the community can seem to be great exercise for the Body of Christ… In its purest sense, it is just that. But too often the ulterior motive is to see how many people we can get back to our church building. This isn’t wrong in and of itself. The purpose for outreach, however, is tied to God’s agenda and not ours. What if we reached out for no other reason than just to show and share the love of Christ?!? Remember: God rewards the motives of our heart over the logic of our head. And, it is Christ who builds the Church! So, outreach for Kingdom expansion keeps churches pure and heartfelt. Now, that will get the “heart-rate” up for all the right reasons!

As Christ-followers, our eating and exercising patterns contribute to the health of any body of believers. So, let’s help lead this movement of healthy churches and fight against “institutional church”! We can do it by encouraging the spirit of community that includes others, anticipating teaching that will help us bear fruit, participating in worship that focuses on Christ and enjoying outreach that builds the Kingdom of God. Mean and lean churches…: mean with the energy to fight the right fight; and, lean with the agility to go the distance to make a difference. I’ll see you on the field!

Weight-loss for Churches, part two

2011-08-01T09:51:00.000-07:00

Everything changes when you’re healthy! Regularly getting your heart-rate up and eating the right foods with proper portions can help with your attitude and perspective on responsibilities and life in general. So, what can this say about church life? When God’s people are feeding on His Word regularly in order to put it into daily practice, her attitude is better, too. Churches can lose the excess by getting back to the biblical purpose. In other words, the church experience can be enjoyed for all the right reasons...which leads us back to exercising margin and moderation…

Go to church because you are the Church.
Attending church really means nothing in and of itself. When we go to a worship experience for any other reason than to be trained to be sent out again as agents of spiritual change, we “institutionalize” the church. WE are the Church, and that’s why we gather together in what is called a church service. That perspective will keep His Body flexible!

Sing with your mind on the right object.
I love music…instruments that are playing well together, that is. But I’ve also learned to worship in many different styles. Preferences should never drive the priority of worship. Enjoy singing the songs, but think about the words and their focus. Clapping and raising hands, bending knees and voicing praise are great exercises for the heart.

It's about the church getting in shape for the spiritual mission she is called to. More to come in the next post...

THE MAIN EVENT Men's Conference 2011

2011-07-13T11:48:00.001-07:00

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Weight-loss for Churches

2011-07-13T08:53:00.000-07:00

OK, I’m just going to say it as it is…in too many cases: Church life can become obese and ineffective. Unfortunately, there's enough churches stuck in self-seeking worship, with “outreach” more inward. But, I’ve also crossed paths with those who want to change and “lose weight” so that life for their churches can have more meaning and agility to the future. My experience has been that watching my weight is not necessarily all about throwing out everything that’s “good” to me. Rather, trimming the fat and getting in better shape has a lot to do with“exercising” margin and moderation. The same is true for overweight churches. Here are some suggestions. I’ll start with a couple and save the others for the next blog entry:

Enjoy community without becoming exclusive.
The idea is to get attached to healthy relationships for your life. And, some of the best friendships can be found in a church community setting; however, the tendency is to become possessive. When this happens, the church reflects a club-like, membership mentality. Appreciate the community with the heart to always invite and involve others into the family of God. That's good "exercise."

Expect to be fed for the right reason.
Being "fed" is meant to propel us unto good works. The pressure falls to the teacher/preacher for effective corporate communication. The responsibility lies with the hearer to allow application to be found. When we come to church expecting "spiritual food" so that we can feel better about ourselves as we leave, we have missed it and will fall into an attitude of critique on every sermon. The challenge is to become more like Christ, and good Bible teaching gives us that opportunity as we are open to life application. That's good eatin' that leads to good livin'!

THE POWER OF PRACTICE

2011-06-24T12:51:00.000-07:00

One of my favorite little stories is told about the guy who stops a taxi driver in the great metropolis of New York City. He asks the cab driver how to get to Carnegie Hall. The response came back, "Practice, man! Practice!"
Someone said that the secret to our success is hidden in our daily routine. I couldn't agree more. Of course, practicing the right method or ethical manner of living is key here. I've been told that to be a better golfer, the driving range is where it's at. But, I can take my clubs out to the range daily and without practicing the "right" swing, my rehearsals are all in vain!
So, the wining idea is to do the "right thing" over and over again until it becomes a part of us. A personal golf trainer once called it "muscle memory, " when your muscles get so acquainted with the grip and the posture, that doing it over and over creates the right rut.
The Apostle Paul challenged his spiritual son Timothy to "train yourself to be godly." He went on to say, "physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come" (1 Timothy 4:7-8). In other words, frequenting a church building or labeling ourselves a "Christian" isn't enough to securing our eternal destiny or reaching our potential here on earth. First, you have to accept the sacrificial life of Christ, turn your back on wrong-doing (sin) and confess Christ as the Lord of your life. Then, life finds meaning as you "practice" relationship with him daily, "practice" right decision-making, "practice" doing good to others, "practice" healthy eating habits and exercise... You get the picture. So, stop and ask yourself: Is my life in a good rhythm? Am I practicing the "right" things? Does my attitudes, appetites and actions reflect a moral practice? Right practice has the power to take you to the next level. "Practice, man! Practice!"

Spiritual ARChitects

2011-06-17T14:20:00.000-07:00

A 21st Century real life “Noah and the Ark” would no doubt be media coverage filled with overbearing humor and outrageous sarcasm. The movie industry already conveyed such a picture some years back in the comedy “Evan Almighty,” where Steve Carell stars as a resistant and disbelieving Congressman from Buffalo who finally accepts the radical job of a modern day Noah. However, this illustrative childhood Bible story has a powerful challenge to the fathers of our culture. Genesis chapters 6 through 9 give us the account. But near the end of the New Testament in the book of Hebrews chapter 11, verse 7 alludes to the historical narrative with one profound sentence: “By faith Noah, when warned about things not yet seen, in holy fear built an ark to save his family.”

I believe that the nature of fatherhood has everything to do with being spiritual architects – building homes that will ride above the rising tide of evil in our world.

We are literally surrounded by secular, social and cultural influences, such as the dissolving of the family unit, promiscuity among teens and young adults, and anti-biblical themes on television, in movies and within the lyrics of popular songs. Dads, if there has ever been a time to look to the Blueprints, to set out our tools, to sharpen our saws and put our heart into building a household of faith, it’s now. Oh sure, make no mistake about it, there will be times when you will feel like you are hammering all alone…when other fathers and families are allowing their children to drift from safety. But just remember Noah and his endeavor to follow the instructions and logic of his God. When no other father believed, he did. When everyone laughed and thought he was crazy and unrealistic, he continued on.

Here are a few suggestions in building and maintaining your household of faith:
1. Establish convictions for your household.
2. Exemplify humility and kindness while being vocal and firm in standing for those convictions.
3. Enforce discipline in a heart to bring restorative correction.
4. Encourage the exercise of right decision-making.
5. Experience the grace and strength that only comes from a daily relationship with Father God.

The role of dads in the home will determine to a great degree whether the family will surf or sink. Noah was building a spiritual ark before he ever received directions to build a physical one. So, fellow dad, consider the challenge that surrounds your own personal family and, even if your diligent pounding sounds the loudest, KEEP HAMMERING…in an attitude of unquenchable love and humble authority…so as to save your own family.

No Time for Superstars

2011-06-14T16:20:00.000-07:00

THE MAVS... Need I say more?!? OK, I am a Dallas Mavericks fan and have been for many years...even when they stunk. But this veteran franchise has done more than just raise the pride-level of their fan club this year; they've taught all that will learn a valuable lesson: superstars don't necessarily steal every show. And, frankly, the super stardom mentality can always be trumped by a lose. There was a time when big time, flashy lawyers, entertainers, sports-figures and preachers could overrank the less popular and more ordinary type. But these days even the trendy can soon fall in the shadow of the more traditional, old-school approach. The "older guys" have instructed us again. Kidd, Terry, Nowitzki and the other steady men that surround them showed that the pass and screens of teamwork really do pay off. And, though Dirk showed in more than one game that he was not invincible, his teammates made up for it in the end. In his own words (from Tuesday's Dallas Morning News): "I just think this is a win of team basketball. This is a win for playing as a team on both ends of the floor, for sharing the ball, and we've been doing that all season long."
This teaches me the following:

1. It does matter who I allow and who I position around me in life.

2. Sharing a task with the right people can bring greater results than just trying to do something on my own.

3. Continuing to use a team approach, even when it seems easier to do it myself, pays off in the end for more than just me with longer lasting rewards.

How can these lessons and more on teamwork apply to your life and line of work? Way to go, MAVS...and, way to go any TEAM that really is one!!!

What will it take to get us AWAKE?

2011-05-26T09:30:00.000-07:00

I must admit that the alarm clock near my side of the bed has been hit more than once any given morning. But, not today... We were awakened five minutes till six this morning by the sound of squealing tires, the slamming of metals, shattering of glass and a sustaining car horn - an unpleasant combination, to say the least. Assuming a car had lost control and hit a tree behind our house, I went to offer some help. What actually precipitated the early morning alarm was more than I bargained for. As I made my way towards the entrance of our neighborhood, my eyes caught the scene of what I later found out to be a head on collision with a fatality. (When your first experience of a day is to see a dead man hanging out of what's left of a family vehicle, your mindset has taken a different shift for at least the rest of that day.) Several thoughts immediately came rushing into what's normally reserved for a quiet time of reading, reflection and prayer. But such thinking became fodder for a uniquely healthy devotional process that I'm still feeding on: I know he's gone before his own family has been made aware of this tragedy. Secondly, he's alive somewhere right now. Needless to say, I've been "wide awake" from meeting to meeting...still meditating on the changed lives from this dramatic occurrence today.

So, what about you...what does it take to get you AWAKE?!? Have you taken an auto-pilot approach to living? What's happened lately to get your thinking on eternal matters? Sometimes "rude awakenings" can be "reality checks" for our life and mission. But let me be quick to say that it should never take "that" to wake us up. So, what should be waking us up and how do we stay awake...for the more important aspects of living?

Viewer Discretion Advised

2011-05-16T12:11:00.000-07:00

"Viewer discretion advised." Have you noticed these words before the start of a movie? What kind of feeling does it elicit from you...? What kind of response...? The phrase is there to tell the viewer that the media experience will include "adult" material not suitable for certain ages. So, what do you do what such a warning? I realize that this is coming across straightforward, but my heart has been convicted to the core as of late. We are surrounded with venues and voices that are endeavoring to appeal to our flesh's appetites. In dwelling on a few Scripture passages and also reading a book simply entitled "Worldliness", I've been freshly challenged to deeply evaluate my casual and even deliberate viewing habits. In other words, what am I allowing into my life... And, in taking time to examine, it almost seems to me that entertainment from the cable and movie industry can't happen without some level of evil - anti-biblical themes: adultery, lust, materialism, violence, greed, gossip. According to the transcultural truths of God's Word, holiness must be contextualized. The Apostle Paul implored the Roman believers (Romans 12:1-2) to offer their bodies as living sacrifices by conforming no longer to the pattern of this world. What does that mean for me and you today? How far are we willing to "reason away" our desire to be entertained at the expense of our loyalty to Christ and our witness in this world? Christ said that "salt" can lose its saltiness. It is clear in Scripture that our passion for Christ is dulled and our surrender to Him, weakened when we ignore the prodding of His Spirit. In addition, His Word tells us not only what to avoid, but also what to pursue: "Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise." In light of God's Word and your positive impact on the world, viewer discretion IS advised.

MOTHERHOOD...ALWAYS

2011-05-07T20:08:00.000-07:00

Home. Warmth. Love. Tender. Touch. Learn. Formula. Try. Laugh. Hug. Cradle. Flowers. Smells. Meals. Recipes. Stir. Bake. Casseroles. Early. Late. Work. Play. Pretend. Barbies. Balls. Homework. Help. Teach. Snacks. Drinks. Shade. Grace. Discipline. Tears. Sad. Encourage. Time. Heal. Bandage. Wipe. Clean. Hold. Laundry. Fold. Wash. Scrub. Bathe. Tired. Sleep. Awake. Burden. Pray. Hope. Rest. Less. More. Save. Spend. Buy. Surprise. Clear. Calendar. Drive. Hurry. Permission. Friends. Overnight. Volunteer. Supplies. Fight. Stand. Protect. Defend. Support. Cheer. Proud. Popcorn. Movies. Blankets. Cuddle. Stories. Read. Relax. Here. Listen. Wait. Understand. Quiet. Faith. There. Repeat. Morning. Night. Smile. Kiss. Release. Unknown. Aware. Empty. Full. Experience. Opinion. Advice. Trusted. Respected. Friend. Always.

The Diary of a Mad Nice Man

2011-05-06T07:19:00.000-07:00

I'm a nice guy. REALLY! Those who know me casually and those who know me best would vouch for me on this one. But even a nice guy can be pushed to the limits. What's with merchants and organizations that make them think they can run over the typical "nice guy"? This week has been contaminated with a couple of instances that have proven this very truth again to me. One business in particular that I have ordered a product installation at my home has put me off three times now... The owner of the company told me that there would be a 5 day turn around after giving him the $800.00 deposit for the work to be done. Well, three weeks and a half dozen excuses later, the waiting has continued...until yesterday. I called them when they didn't show up, and after hearing that they couldn't make it due to a series of "roadblocks", their incompetence and my frustration brought the talk that I rarely give.
I'm a nice guy for more than one reason: I was raised to be one; it's part of my personality; I'm endeavoring to follow Christ with my life. The last of the three is the biggest. Christ taught the godly characteristic of meekness, living with a sense of humility and non-assumption. But meekness is not weakness. And, nice should never mean naive! Christ also taught stewardship... And, what has been entrusted to us, be it relationships or possessions, must be protected under the conviction that we will be held accountable. (OK, I'm not trying to over-spiritualize here...)
Here's the point: You can maintain a level of congeniality without loosing your common sense. Being a good steward demands a level of responsibility that trumps casual conversation. Take care of business, stating your expectations while kindly getting your point across and not becoming outrageously angry. It's amazing that when we kindly "hold their feet to the fire", projects can actually get done. Think about it... By the way, I've given the company that I mentioned earlier one more time to get it right, and then I'm moving on...with my deposit.

The Leadership Environment

2011-05-02T12:03:00.000-07:00

Real leaders are lovers of people - plain and simple! If a "leader" doesn't love people in general and especially those that follow him or her, they really aren't leading; rather, they are demanding and commanding, with a single motive to get what they want. Leadership involves a genuine care for the welfare of others. It's a people business, and business is booming!!! So, here's a few probing questions for all the leaders out there:
What do people feel when they are around you?
How is the room of people affected when you walk in?
Are people glad to see you come, glad to see you go or indifferent to your presence?
Leaders are meant to be thermostats! They set the temperature for sincere engagement and encouragement. They point people to their potential and not just their present performance. They make learning a fun and necessary part of their relationships...which triggers a higher level of health in the organization. And, when the environment is healthy, people are energized! They grow and thrive with the possibility of providing greater creativity and productivity! YES, that's the business of leadership!!!

THE REACH OF RESPECT

2011-04-15T08:00:00.001-07:00

It's easy to demand respect from our children, but does that teach anything in the long run? I come from the South and yes, it's been said that we use the "yes sir" and "no ma'am" quite regularly with those who are our senior. And, growing up in Louisiana and Texas, we never called a grown-up by their first name... When I moved up to Colorado as an adult, new friends were amazed at such vernacular. Well, after all these years I still feel that there's a place for being polite, courteous and respectful. And, yes, we are endeavoring to teach this principle of respect to our children. My son and I have entered into the Respect Project together. He understands that my goal is to truly help him. So, when he shows respect, he gets rewarded and when he doesn't, he will get some healthy form of discipline. My strong feeling is that if he can learn respect at an early age, more doors will open for him in his future, opportunities that could take him to the next level. We as adults need to be reminded of this as well. And, using the excuse "I'm not a people person" doesn't work here. EVERYONE deserves some level of respect - if for no other reason, that they are a part of the human race. I would venture to say that a great deal of relational and organizational challenges could be better tackled if we started with a little more RESPECT. So, let's work on this together, whatayasay? The lesson of respect is better caught than taught! The assignment begins with us: Give opportunity for others to be heard; allow someone the right-of-way on the road today; say hello, thank you and offer a helping hand... The reach of respect can go a long way!

GO INDIGENOUS! (Who Better to Reach Their Own)

2011-04-04T14:59:00.000-07:00

INDIGENOUS. I know that isn't a word we use in our everyday language, at least not in my casual conversations. But "the word" has latched onto my thinking lately. And, I was brought back to a classic book in my personal library: "The Indigenous Church", by Melvin Hodges. The essence of the book challenges the work of missionary evangelism to be about turning such a work over to the native people that have been reached. Though this writing was published in 1953, the timeless principles seem to be revolutionary. Here's what I mean:

When churches do ministry, the tendency is to train people to work in the church and not prepare them for the real mission field.

In other words, pastors and teachers are tempted to want to keep "their" congregants (building bigger churches) instead of releasing them into their own cultures to build THE CHURCH. Back to the word INDIGENOUS... It means to be "born or engendered in, native to a land or region..." It's not the "job" of the pastor to reach the Christ-follower's unbelieving friend, neighbor or co-worker. And, so who's responsibility is it? The responsibility lies in the hands of the one who's most effective - the indigenous person, the very one who's connected to their culture! Therefore, the job description of the pastor/teacher takes us right back to Ephesians 4 - to equip God's people for works of service!!! Missionary evangelism in any culture is about reaching, teaching and releasing the taught...back to those they can reach best! So, GO INDIGENOUS...!

A Culture of Surrender

2011-03-17T09:22:00.000-07:00

In 1943, 100 thousand young people in brown shirts filled the Olympic Stadium in Munich, Germany, the largest stadium in the world at that time. They formed with their bodies a sign for a fanatical man standing behind the podium. The message read, “Hitler, we are yours.” Their commitment allowed them to nearly conquer the world.
A CULTURE OF SURRENDER
From a previous generation with a heaven-sent mission, John Wesley said these words: “Give me one hundred men who love only God with all their heart and hate only sin with all their heart, and we will shake the gates of hell and bring in the kingdom of God in one generation.”
A CULTURE OF SURRENDER
In AD 33, 120 gathered in an upper room, totally obedient to the words of a radical leader, surrendered in their will to a higher calling. And because of their uncommon yieldedness and unwavering commitment to that Man, they shook the entire known world with the aftershocks still being felt over 2000 years later.
A CULTURE OF SURRENDER
It's still about a group of people with a holy zeal, a deepening love for Father God and an uncompromising devotion to Jesus Christ that changes the landscape of sinful society. That's why pastor and author Bill Hybels says that the local church is the hope for world.
The first century church turned the world upside down because they labored together as a culture of surrender.
I am continually blessed by assembled Christ-followers who partner to make a positive difference in communities and among the hurting. There's no greater force in our world today than the church being the CHURCH! It begins with one heart that is yielded totally to the will of Father God. And, that surrendered soul positively infects others... It starts with me and you!
Here's a prayer that I'm learning to pray. It was written by a missionary named Betty Scott with the China Inland Missions:
Lord, I give up my own plans and purposes, all my own desires, hopes and ambitions,
and I accept Thy will for my life. I give up myself, my life, my all, utterly to Thee, to be Thine forever. I hand over to Thy keeping all of my friendships; all the people whom I love are to take second place in my heart. Fill me now and seal me with Thy Spirit. Work out Thy whole will in my life at any cost, for to me to live is Christ. Amen.

Holy Alignment

2011-03-07T10:46:00.000-08:00

Have you ever driven a car that was out of alignment? It pulled to one side when driving down the road; the drive itself was bumpy on an otherwise smooth road; the steering wheel vibrated while driving... One bump or pothole in the road can throw a vehicle out of alignment. I don't know about you, but it doesn't take me long to find a dependable mechanic to take care of such a travel irritation. Thus the benefits of alignment: a safe and smooth transit along with a potentially longer duration on one set of tires.

Life needs a similar alignment. With the bumps and potholes along the road our life travels, priorities and a proper perspective can get skewed. Getting back into alignment for the Christ-follower first comes by acknowledging that the pull we are feeling is not healthy and can cause greater damage the longer we allow it to go. Life alignment can really only come by our yieldedness to the work of the Great Mechanic - the Holy Spirit. Humbly aligning with the heart of God is living in simple obedience to what His Word and Spirit are saying today! Yes, it starts today, knowing that this travel irritation doesn't have to continue. Change is possible and it comes by our simple trust and obedience right now! So, what is His Word and Spirit saying to you today?

Here's what Holy Alignment looks like: (in no particular order)
1. serving the less fortunate with no strings attached
This could be in your community's soup kitchen, government housing addition, nursing home, etc. What can you do today for the less fortunate?

2. sharing authentic life with other followers of Christ
Growing, intimate friendships with fellow journeyers is critical for accountability and spiritual maturity. What friendship can you begin to cultivate this week that has the potential of calling you higher?

3. seeking out relationships with those who are far from God
The only real hope of eternal life for those who are far from God is found in on-purpose relationships that Christ-followers pursue with them. With whom can you begin a strategic relationship to help bring closer to God?

4. striving for unity and love in the body of Christ
There will always be those within the Church that cause pain for other brothers and sisters in Christ. (We have that propensity to cause pain as well.) Who can we begin to forgive today in hopes to forge a level of restoration?

Here's my prayer. Feel free to use it as well...
Father God, I acknowledge that my life has been traveling with a pull to the flesh. My heart has been distracted with cares and concerns that have skewed my perspective. I humbly ask for Your help. May I not travel another mile in my life without the ability to realign and re-engage with Your Heart...in the Name of Jesus Christ, I pray. Amen.

The Breakfast of Champions

2011-02-28T07:16:00.001-08:00

He denied that he knew the most important figure in his life...three specific times. And, when the rooster crowed during the third denial (just as Christ predicted), he saw HIS face looking back at him and went outside, weeping bitterly. Needless to say, after the resurrection of Christ, Simon Peter, without a chance to reconcile, was surprised to see Him on the sea shore with breakfast cooked. These disciples had fished all night and caught nothing. Jesus showed up early in the morning and told them to cast their nets on the right side of the boat. They ended up catching so many fish, large fish, that they had difficulty hauling it in. The gospel of John, chapter 21, records the story. Without mentioning a word about the betrayal, Christ engages Peter once again in the mission that he was called into earlier...over breakfast! The temptation is to think, sure, but doesn't he need to get some counseling or maybe have some time off to think about his failure, you know, just so he'll never do it again?!? Maybe... But that's not what Christ did here. And, without debating any system out there, the way we deal with others' mistakes, sins, shortcomings, etc., is in direct reflection to our measure of Christlikeness. (Just sayin'.) Rehabilitation, as we like to call it, begins by relationship immersed in grace! Counseling is needed; analysis and assessments are beneficial; renumerating expectations are necessary. Here's a suggestion, however: Let's start with BREAKFAST - for no other reason but to communicate acceptance, a meal that lowers defenses and accusations. Hey, for the other person, it could be a BREAKFAST OF CHAMPIONS, because grace makes champions out of all of us!

A Preacher That's Thinkin' Right

2011-02-21T06:56:00.000-08:00

For all the preachers out there...
I came across a fresh perspective that author and pastor Max Lucado shares from another minister. Russ Blowers, from Indianapolis, knowing he would be asked about his profession at a Rotary Club meeting, resolved to say more than ‘I’m a preacher.’
Instead this is what he gave in a creative introduction: “Hi, I’m Russ Blowers. I’m with a global enterprise. We have branches in every country in the world. We have representatives in nearly every parliament and boardroom on earth. We’re into motivation and behavior alteration. We run hospitals, feeding stations, crisis-pregnancy centers, universities, publishing houses, and nursing homes. We care for our clients from birth to death. We are into life insurance and fire insurance. We perform spiritual heart transplants. Our original Organizer owns all the real estate on earth plus an assortment of galaxies and constellations. He knows everything and lives everywhere. Our product is free for the asking. (There’s not enough money to buy it.) Our CEO was born in a hick town, worked as a carpenter, didn’t own a home, was misunderstood by his family and hated by his enemies, walked on water, was condemned to death without a trial, and arose from the dead. I talk with him every day.”
Now that's a preacher that's thinkin' right...! I don't know about you, but that makes me think partnership, networking, connections - helping to build a Kingdom larger than our own.

Express It...or Just Forget It

2011-02-14T07:39:00.001-08:00

Last night as I was walking out of the house, my 7 year old girl asked where I was going. I replied to her in a whisper that dad was going to get mom some flowers for Valentine's Day. Her response was priceless: a big feminine smile broke out across her sweet face, in essence telling me that I was for sure on the right track. It's amazing to me how they connect...at such a young age. And, the flowers along with the cards and some other things really do matter. Why? Love is more than just an emotion - IT'S A MOTION! The idea that it isn't and that just as long as we say we love is all that matters...comes from an ignorance that keeps us separated from reality and true relationship. Furthermore, this truth applies beyond the man and woman. Friendships need the expression; among family, giving cannot be taken for granted. When we love at any level, giving will be the common characteristic. Your "love language" doesn't have to be "gifts" to appreciate love that expresses itself. As a matter of fact, from the old adage - talk really is cheap when it isn't accompanied by something that proves it. So, let's pause the good we are saying and examine our words to see if they match the good we are doing. Integrity demands it; our loved-ones deserve it; the God of love expects it!

The Battles We Choose

2011-02-09T07:53:00.000-08:00

The varying philosophies on foreign policy are intriguing to me. Relating to differing cultures and how they govern has a deep past in world history. What's even been more interesting to me is the study of international conflict. Deciding what's worth defending, when to defend, where to take the stand and who the stand is actually against are ever so critical when tensions are already at a fever pitch. In many cases, the battle lines are drawn long before a fight begins. Values define the battle. When one nation or people group decide that the only way to resolve a difference of viewpoint is to battle it out, the value for them says why they are literally fighting. Have you ever questioned why two nations decide to fight? Has there been a moment where you've sensed the seeming uselessness of a battle?

In everyday life, the battles we choose can be as equally complicated. Last Saturday illustrated this once again for me. How can emotions get so out of control so quickly at an 8 year old basketball game...and, not among the players, but their parents? Enthusiasm and passion can turn into immature reactions when unguarded. My son's team was up by one point with only seconds left in the game. Both sides of the crowd were engaged in the game with raised voices. The other team had the ball with the urgent drive to the rim only to be abruptly interrupted by a foul to stop the clock. When my son's friend made the foul, a player from the opposing team leaped from the bench to tackle him down before a free throw was ever set up. In nothing less than a snap of a finger, my son's friend's father was down from the stands onto the court yelling "Game Over!" with me by his side. And, the game was over for more reasons than one. A little later in the evening came an explosion of insight into this community uprising by way of a text to me from a friend after the game... The father of the boy who tackled my son's friend was wearing a t-shirt with this message on the back: "fighting solves everything".

My commentary is simple: We need to keep our values in check...by asking ourselves the more probing question, "What do my choices mean in light of eternity?" When it comes to our children, sure, the battle line has already been drawn. But battles are chosen by our convictions - our beliefs, which need to be reevaluated against the backdrop of eternal significance before we throw the first punch or retaliate accordingly.

"We teach what we know; we reproduce what we are."

There's No Business Like SNOW Business

2011-02-03T09:37:00.000-08:00

Living in Oklahoma, days like we have experienced in the last 48 hours are somewhat rare: blizzard-like conditions; five foot snow drifts; consecutive days of school closings; discouraged travel. With that comes the "initial" fun of being couped up in your house with family members, fresh soups, and homemade goodies. (At least that's what we enjoyed at our house.) However, if you are a mover like me, being snowed in for more than 24 hours can become agitating. (This is no reflection on my awesome family.) What I am learning is the good out of this. Everyone NEEDS deliberate seasons that shut us out from the normal and shut us in for extended, creative self time. For many of us, we don't realize what we need until we get it. Well, when I finally gave into the reality of literally being "snowed in", the productivity of relaxation and reflection kicked in. Allow me to give some suggestions that have made a difference for me:

1. Carve out some time to really enjoy those you love. Michelle and I have taken some on-purpose time with our children over the last few days - reading to them, playing games, watching movies, and just being goofy. We've also hung out with friends with zero time constraints. This gives opportunity for walls to come down and community to be felt!

2. Close yourself in mentally so that you can really get into a book or a study that leads to deep introspection and personal planning. Within a regular work week, I seem to never really go as far as I want in processing an idea or concept. I end up putting a coma on whatever I'm meditating on, picking up with it at another part of the day. So, widened moments to feel free to go there with my thoughts are cherished.

3. Intermittently ping colleagues, friends, acquaintances to build on your network of resources. When the clock doesn't tick against a typical to-do list, you are available to connect and keep relationships vibrant either by the mode of technology or the old-fashioned way of a hand-written card. (Hey, the personal touch still goes a long way.) Catching up, reconnecting, and giving a shout out to your contacts when life slows down engages your network for now and for later. Being "snowed in" gives opportunity to really get busy in this essential area.

4. Make yourself rest from projects and even nap during the day. Every health and nutrition information that I come across seems to address the significance of regularly scheduled rest and periodic extended restful environments. And though I haven't been a "good napper" in the past, down times certainly provide ample opportunity to sneak one in during the day...of which I took advantage of during this winter weather episode. I'm learning that rest must be scheduled and followed through.

Yes - we all need a snow day or two. If it doesn't come to you by way of weather, take it anyway! You'll thank yourself for it later...

The Butterfly Ball

2011-01-28T09:03:00.001-08:00

Few experiences are more meaningful and emotional for me than what I attended last evening with my little girl. Her elementary school sponsored the Butterfly Ball - a daddy/daughter dinner and dance. The preparation was almost as special as the event itself. She and her mom went on the hunt for a new dress, had her hair cut, and wanted to surprise me with both. And, the day of the ball, the anticipation heightened for me as I pressed through hours of meetings. Opening the car door for her and taking her hand made me feel like a knight in shining armor. (OK - I may be going a little overboard...) Suffice to say, the night was outrageously fun! And, she even allowed me to dance with her a couple of times. (For my friends out there who might be hard-line questioning this activity, the purity of the experience was unquestionable.) The lump in my throat grew as the mind began to fast forward to a night that will be far more monumental than this - a dance with the bride. I briefly imagined a possible conversation... "Do you remember our first real dance when you were in first grade...?" (Wow...kleenex please!) Thanks to all who had the forethought and creativity to put such an event together.

And, here's a thought: What if churches provided a special evening for daddys and daughters?

Cracking Down on the Comparison Game 2

2011-01-23T19:52:00.000-08:00

Here are some observations I've found concerning this comparison game we tend to play...

1. We build models off of anomalies: comparing ourselves to "prodigies" in our field.

2. We criticize unfairly: knowing little about their journey.

3. We live more isolated: choosing not to enlarge our circle of love because of pride and fear.

4. We respond defensively: living from excuse to excuse.

5. We limit growth opportunities: giving up on getting better.

Comparing ourselves to others is never truly fair. We tend to judge our effectiveness against another's from a broken lens. In fact, playing this comparison game can be emotional suicide. Our perspective narrows and narrows until a prison of personal defeat bars us in. At the least, fear and a pessimistic attitude are definite outcomes to living in someone else's shadow. The crazy side of this game is the initial innocence. Before we realize it, we go to bed and wake up wondering what others think.

WAIT A MINUTE...

Who's approval are you living for?

What success needs to be achieved before you feel accepted by others?

How influential does your calling really demand?

Hey, this doesn't seem anywhere close to the life we are called to live! Learning, growing, expanding, improving - YES. But only to be the better YOU God intended!

Cracking Down on the Comparison Game

2011-01-21T11:20:00.001-08:00

My son is into the green guys - Yoda and the Hulk. The physical points of comparison are obvious. And, yet, I think he likes these super figures for what they individually can do. Unique in their own right, these fictional characters offer a lesson that my son and equally his dad can learn: comparing our self against another comes from what we can initially see -and, what we can see with the naked eye can certainly fool us.

My eight year old is a fantastic basketball player for his age and also his height. He knows and loves the game more than I ever did at his age. His fascination with the skill and height of the show continues to grow. And, his size bothers him. Even though he's the point guard on the league team, he compares himself against the taller boys, making the assumption that they are better players because of their bigger size. Then comes "the talk"... He's heard it before and will hear it again as he brings up this subject of comparison: You can do what others can't. You need your team and your team needs you. Stay focused on what you can contribute. OK...I admit, it sounds a like deep for a third-grader. But, he gets it, at least for the moment. It's amazing how often we need to be reminded of this "talk" at our age.

FRESH BREAD or Moldy Ministry

2011-01-14T07:45:00.001-08:00

"Fresh Bread." Those were the words from General Superintendent Thomas Trask as he began his sermon at an Oklahoma District Council. I was hanging on every word from his explanation. He had been awakened in the middle of the night with a "fresh word" from the Lord for those that would attend the morning gathering. As a matter of fact, he lifted it up to show that his notes were written on the hotel stationary. Needless to say the sermon became a message, and the inspirational challenge from his example stood strong among that room full of spiritual leaders.
From the last blog post, when we lose our freshness, we potentially lose effectiveness. When spiritual leaders lose their freshness, the least amount of impact can be expressed in missed direction and, the worst, catastrophic among those who follow. Being "awakened" from business as usual, from a well-crafted human agenda, from the comfort of favored relationships, from the feeling of being good at what we do, from a mind crowded with the noises of critics...is actually a primary expression of being spiritual. The flip side is what was mentioned in the last post - a stale witness- which easily can lead to moldy ministry, a leadership among others that becomes unhealthy. When God has the life of a leader, spiritual leadership is the byproduct.
Spiritual leader, let God have a say... He must, because He is the only One who can keep your leadership spiritual! And, that's good news!!!

Staying Fresh!

2011-01-10T17:34:00.000-08:00

Pringles. Can't seem to help myself around that slender can of thin, crispy chips. Don't leave me alone with them. Just a few crumbles in my mouth and I'm drawn in. However, the other day, I went after a little something in our kitchen pantry, reaching high on the top shelf where the "good food" is kept. Back behind some bags of fritos, I saw the red cylinder. Working past the second rate snacks, I went for it. Popping open the plastic lid, the first crunch revealed to me the secret to why I really like these chips... They were purely stale, I mean disgustingly stale! I couldn't believe it. In a bit of emotional complaining, I asked to anyone who would hear my heart, "Hey, what happened to the Pringles? They've lost their taste!" Then I heard the conclusion: "Someone must have left the lid off..." A disappointing experience against what I know Pringles came be.

The very same detriment that steals freshness from my favorite chip can also keep us from being crisp. When we haven't had an opportunity to ourselves - those extended quiet times to pray, meditate, study - we grow stale. Left open to the world, carnal influences dull our senses. I despise not being fresh. This morning I asked the Father for fresh revelation, something new to my spirit. Our life among others demands it! I'm not just arguing a regularity of quiet times. Close yourself in and allow your devotional habits to go deeper. Ask the hard questions. Be spiritually challenged, mentally expanded, emotionally leveled. And, be ready to offer that tasteful experience when the lid is lifted on your life.

"Let your speech at all times be gracious (pleasant and winsome), seasoned [as it were] with salt, [so that you may never be at a loss] to know how you ought to answer anyone [who puts a question to you]." Colossians 4:6

Leaders Need More Time

2011-01-04T06:52:00.000-08:00

One commonality that connects us with everyone from the past, present and future...24 hours in a day. We all have been given that precious commodity. What we do with it is the critical question! How we spend it continues to be the daily challenge for all of us. But for another group, the question is even more serious... Leaders, those who have been entrusted with helping others navigate in business and life for a successful journey, know how to squeeze productivity out of an otherwise ordinary day. Granted, distractions are always the potential. Those who lead others know that given the opportunity to derail is not an option. If leadership truly is influence, then who else and how many would that careless decision impact. As a leader myself, I've found that a particular area of distraction has been administration. And, this particular area cannot be ignored - because of it's importance and also it's consuming responsibility. Surrounding yourself with the capability of others to release them in arenas that need them and other arenas that need you is a sign of healthy leadership. Here's my suggestion: Leaders need more time...to spend for the very reason they are called leaders. Three specific areas come to mind:

READING
One of the all-time great resources we have available to us is books. I'm a fan because my life is positively different with these collections apart of me. Reading inspires, illuminates, critiques, expands us. For those who do not enjoy reading, I can relate. As a matter of fact, I despised it, until the Holy Spirit dealt with me. I now enjoy it and am challenged to read more. I am convinced that to be a better leader, time must be carved out for reading. When leaders stop learning, they stop leading. Leaders are lead-learners!

REFLECTING
Times to stare off in the distance, to take a blank piece of paper on a note pad and begin to write, to walk and think, to sit in solitude...are essential to planning for the next step and preparing to lead people better. Some of my most creative bursts have been when I had the time to process it out, whether it was driving down the road alone in quietness or sipping on a cup of coffee with a note pad in my lap. Maybe for you, it's one of the first exercises of your day, during the lunch hour or a couple of hours in the afternoon that you block off. Whatever time you reserve, make sure you schedule it into your calendar and make time for it regularly. Nothing takes the place of reserved moments to think.

RELATING
There is a secret to finding friends: it's being friendly, showing yourself to be an available friend. One of the most significant elements to effective leadership is people skills. And, being out and about, visible to the community, connecting with business owners, power-brokers, and just simply the neighborhoods makes for a good use of relationships. Tommy Barnett calls it enlarging our circle of love. And, not to forget those we already lead - getting to know them over lunch or coffee, going to where they work and live. All of this takes time...out from behind the desk and office. Good leaders are never loners. It's not meant to be lonely at the top. Leaders take others with them through sincere relationships.

Reading, reflecting, relating...engagements that will require time away. This is the real activity behind strong, strategic, forward-thinking, healthy leadership. Leader, start the year off right and schedule these essential ingredients in your day and week.

Choosing Your Luggage for the New Year

2010-12-31T10:26:00.001-08:00

The convenience of air travel... And, then to place your luggage on the scales, only to be charged extra for overweight baggage. Entering 2011 can be much like our experience at the airport. We might think, the convenience of a new year... But a positive approach can quickly collapse under the weight of unresolved issues. You can choose your luggage as you travel into the new year. You can be purposeful and strategic. Take time today to think about it. Here are some suggestions:

1. Spend time in prayer about the new year.

2. Reaffirm your loyalty and devotion to Christ.

3. Ask for forgiveness from the person (s) you've wronged.

4. Forgive who you need to forgive.

5. Thank those who have blessed you in 2010.

6. Read the book of Ephesians and know where you stand.

7. Write a growth plan.

8. Choose travel companions.

9. Start off the new year by sharing, serving and giving.

10. Fix your mind on the good report.

God's plan for you is to prosper you and not to harm you. So, join with Him and have a blessed new year.

THE REAL SEASON AND STORY

2010-12-23T08:37:00.001-08:00

While writing this post, I'm sitting in a very familiar place: my parent's home. They've lived here right at twenty-five years...and the nostalgia runs deep! Lots of memories and lots of generosity flowing from this house. I can't help but meditate on the many ways my dad and mom have made the Christmas season special to their kids and now grand kids. And, with all the trimmings, decorations, and all-out gift-giving year after year, one aspect remains bigger: the reason for it all. I've been blessed to have such a rich legacy - that from one generation to another, the real meaning of Christmas is central to Christ!

It's quite the challenge to keep the real meaning alive amidst the crazy consumerism of our culture. The responsibility as Christ-followers becomes ever so intense and our activity around the tree, critical. So, singing the songs of the nativity, dwelling on the story and helping those in need are essentials... I read recently about a particular "underground" church that can only mouth the words of their worship choruses due to potential persecution. Let's raise our voices and eagerly lend our hearts in adoration to the Christ of Christmas! LET'S KEEP IT REAL! Without Him, there wouldn't be a reason to celebrate nor even a true desire. More on the Story later...

Getting Into the Christmas Spirit

2010-12-02T09:11:00.001-08:00

It's here again...Christmastime! I love it, can't get enough of it, and never look forward to it ending. But many I've come in contact with just have a difficult time getting into the mood, the spirit of cheer. Because it seems to come so fast and end with the same speed, I too have missed opportunities to really maximize this season. So, here's my top 10 ways for getting hyped up and making the Holiday season meaningful:

1. Wear a Christmas color everyday of December up through Christmas Day.

2. Spend time making a gift instead of buying one.

3. Visit a nursing home or serve in a homeless mission.

4. Do a Christmas story character study throughout December with your family.

5. Listen to Christmas music in your car.

6. Attend a Christmas pageant or play.

7. Take a tour of Christmas lights.

8. Invite some friends to your house for games and goodies.

9. Take Christmas goodies to neighbors.

10. Go Christmas caroling.

Working the Simple Formula (Keeping it Simple in Sales, Leadership and Ministry) Part Four

2010-11-22T09:40:00.000-08:00

Purpose, People Skills, PASSION

Are you excited about what you do, and does it show?

I know...there are days that the roles and responsibilities can be overwhelming while the attitudes and reactions of others, disheartening. But it's our driving love for what we do and internal enthusiasm to go to the next level with it that cracks the proverbial code of higher effectiveness. If we are indifferent and just "okay" with what is happening at present around us, the part we play becomes worse than irrelevant - it stands as an awful contagion. On the flip side, when we operate with an attitude of going after it, the environment of awareness rises and thus the productivity. Passion speaks! It yells, Yes we can and It can be done. The morale of any organization must be addressed long before the momentum can be a concern. When individuals and the group senses hope, sustainable activity for the good finds a greater opportunity.
Passion is married to excellence. When we are energetic about our calling and responsibilities, we will be challenged to be and do the best we can. We will examine closely our work, then the work of the team. Here's the probing question: Am I giving all I can to what I'm called to do at this point in my life?

To keep passion alive and improve our productivity, here are some suggestions:
(1) Schedule ways to improve weekly. (follow blogs, read books, attend a conference)
(2) Find someone who is doing better at what you are doing and learn from them. (a distant or local mentor)
(3) Focus on giving your best in the simple things. (sharper emails, clearer communication, prepared feedback)
(4) Connect with a team of learners. (join a team, form a team)
(5) Look for progress daily. (work for easy wins, praise the good that others do)

Og Mandino, author of The Greatest Salesman in the World, wrote,
“Every memorable act in the history of the world is a triumph of enthusiasm. Nothing great was ever achieved without it because it gives any challenge or any occupation, no matter how frightening or difficult, a new meaning. Without enthusiasm you are doomed to a life of mediocrity, but with it you can accomplish miracles.” Passion is that overlooked ingredient that takes our efforts over the top. So, go ahead - GET PUMPED UP!!!

Purpose, People Skills, Passion! Don't miss the simple formula. Work it today!

Working the Simple Formula (Keeping it Simple in Sales, Leadership and Ministry) Part Three

2010-11-18T09:43:00.000-08:00

Purpose, PEOPLE SKILLS, Passion

How are YOUR people skills?

Do people in general bug you or do they brighten your day? I guess that's all in how you see them. Some say that their personality type tends to fashion a loner mentality for them. They aren't comfortable around various kinds of people. That's cool...I get it. However, in considering your calling and in most, for that matter, the customer or target for what we do at the end of the day narrows in on individuals and groups - all with one aspect in common: they are a part of the human race. Our genuine interest in people really matters in everything we do. Here's a more probing question: What do people feel when they're around you? I've found that how I make people feel is typically how they will feel about me. My practice as a fellow member of the human race can be to make people feel like a million bucks or like a minuscule part of my world. Making people feel valuable starts by how I see myself and my calling. Consider these suggestions in practicing good people skills:

(1) Maintain good eye-contact when talking face-to-face.

(2) Listen so as to recall what was said.

(3) Call their name and do everything needed to remember it.

(4) Return phone calls and emails within a reasonable timeframe.

(5) Send random hand-written cards of encouragement.

This list may partially sound old school, but some of the cultural and technological changes tend to distance us rather than draw us to others we are to serve. So, sharpening our ability to be more people-oriented requires us to think in terms of family, community, network and relationships. Our ability to be friendly and make friends goes much farther than we can at times imagine. It's profoundly that simple...because it's really all about people!

Watch for part three on this topic to come...

A couple of the many resources to check into on this subject:

"Winning with People" by John Maxwell and "Never Eat Alone" by Keith Ferrazzi

Working the Simple Formula (Keeping it Simple in Sales, Leadership and Ministry) Part 2

2010-11-15T12:53:00.000-08:00

PURPOSE, People Skills, Passion

What are you called to do?

Do you know? It's easy to look at others and admire or critique. We can slip into the idea that someone else's "niche" in life is worth going after without even knowing much about their own personal journey. But what about you?!? There will never be another one like you. Your giftings mix and way of approaching life is not accidental. There's a reason why you are passion about this particular direction or that. The first step in discovering that specific "what" comes through a season and maybe even journey of looking at yourself. Here's some questions to consider in that season of self-examination:

(1) What tasks or assignments excite me?

(2) What makes me frustrated?

(3) What saps my energy levels even when I think about it?

(4) In what areas do I excel?

When you discover that "what", you have an opportunity to be and do exactly what was meant for you. And, the way you go about it, though your calling might be similar to others, will make you and your assignment unique to anyone else's. You are needed, your head and heart. Don't allow anyone or anything to take that away from you. Stay far from placing your abilities against others in similar fields. Comparison is self-inflicted emotional abuse. Learning from others is a good practice, but copying styles, or worse, a calling, robs uniqueness and sabotages personal contribution. Choose to be comfortable in your own skin. Know what you are called to be and do and then go live out that calling. Let's not forget this basic essential...part of working the simple formula. More to come...

Check out "Holy Discontent", written by Bill Hybels. I strongly recommend this easy read in light of grasping our personal calling.

Working the Simple Formula (Keeping it Simple in Sales, Leadership and Ministry)

2010-11-15T09:38:00.000-08:00

Sometimes, I just need to boil it down, simplify it, dust off the complication, narrow the focus...so I can magnify the core, the center, the really important, the reason, the essence for being. In leadership, sales, resourcing, ministry...we can emphasis the processes and strategy over the profound few essentials that keep these roles and responsibilities relevant to start with. In other words, we can get going so fast on the agenda at hand or even distracted by the peripheral that we lose sight of what it's all about.

I've narrowed it down for me: PURPOSE, PEOPLE SKILLS, PASSION. If we don't know what we are called to do, who we are called to, and how we are to get "that" done, we aren't going to be successful in what really defines "success". Or, if these essentials get blurred for us, we miss the real impact in life. I don't know about you, but I've tried the "going through the motions" and missing all together the mission, living from role and responsibility and not from personal relationships. What drives those "things" we do? What keeps our responsibilities alive? I've been in leadership long enough to know that if I don't keep these few "main things" at the forefront of my daily thinking, I dull my effectiveness by leading from my head and not my heart.

We'll break it down further in the next post.

GOD MOMENTS 2

2010-10-29T09:58:00.000-07:00

David, the Bible figure, is in the top five of most familiar Scripture characters. His story begins when the prophet Samuel is led by God to Jesse's house in search of a new king for Israel. After all but one of Jesse's sons are paraded before Samuel and rejected, Samuel offers these words: "Are these all the sons you have?" As though he were disappointed to mention the last on the rung of sons, Jesse sends for his youngest. He was tending his father's sheep. When he was sent for, his location was unmistaken - faithfully doing what was assigned to him by his earthly father. Shepherding sheep had to be potentially one of the slowest jobs with little to no measurables. Mundane Mondays assumably going from weeks to months without end…aside from a predator of sheep here and there. However, in the midst of those motionless months, David found relationship with His God to be rich. We pick up on the development of this divine interaction from the words of Psalm 23. Here's the point: The time spent, below the city lights and in the shadow of his bigger brothers, with the Good Shepherd was preparatory for his present as well as future. When David went to find favor with King Saul to fight the giant Goliath, he presented his mammoth experience of having the strength to go after and kill the lion and the bear that came to carry of his father's sheep. And, the slaying of the uncircumcised Philistine was approached with the same supernatural precession and strength -both found in relationship with the Good Shepherd. God moments come to the spiritually prepared. David was going after God with his heart, and that level of daily communion prepared him to fight victoriously, worship unashamedly, and lead purely. Our measure of faith and fortitude is developed by the daily commitment to give God first place in our life. And, first place means the seeming sacrifice at times of regular Bible study, prayer, fasting...when the feeling isn't there but the devotion is! The spiritual sharpener of on-purpose and from-the-heart time with Father God enables us to be awake when it's time to go to the next level in influence and impact...for His glory alone! Don't miss another moment...

GOD MOMENTS

2010-10-26T14:49:00.000-07:00

I remember quite vividly a challenge I heard nearly 20 years ago while attending what was then Southwestern Assemblies of God College. A missionary spoke in our chapel service about prayer and other spiritual disciplines. He made the statement that if you didn't get up at 5am every morning for prayer, your ministry wouldn't amount to much. Those words pierced me to the core. At that time, I almost assumed what he said was gospel (a student's mind soaking up knowledge and guidance to a better self). So, I set my alarm for 4:45am prior to going to bed that night with every bit of zealous intention in making this new timeslot a part of my daily routine. To say I kept that schedule wouldn't be truthful nor did I continue to hold to the missionary's same expectation as gospel for me. But what I did come to know is the value of keeping spiritual disciplines as daily routine and the sacrifice that would sometimes carry. Whether it be 5am or 10pm, the timeslot or timeframe, for that matter, isn't the most important aspect of spiritual disciplines. Rather, the fact that we make them a part of our daily lives is the bigger issue. And, the biblical idea is that those disciplines produce personal growth - not just keeping a routine...to feel better about ourselves because we accomplished something "spiritual" for that day. Heaven's expectation for those who consider themselves Christ-followers is that we bear fruit. Personal fruit-bearing comes primarily from the work of God's Word and the walk of faith. For the "work" and the "walk" to occur, our commitment to spiritual disciplines must become ruthless.

Benjamin Disraeli said, "The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his time when it comes." Could it be that maintaining spiritual disciplines, even in those days that the "goose-bumps" and epiphanies aren't there, prepare us for "God Moments" in our lives? I'm talking about those opportunities, be it a grand promotion or simply a season to do good for someone else, that God brings our way.

Think about it...and, I'll write more a little later.

A Gross Misunderstanding or My Greatest Compliment

2010-10-04T09:17:00.000-07:00

While serving last year as pastor of a local church, an unforgettable experience came to me. I went to visit an aged saint of God in the nursing home. Medically, she was not far from departing this world. Her eyesight and hearing were failing along with her ability to sit up. We had previously shared some warm visits as we reminisced on the goodness of God throughout her life. She was also a member of what Tom Brokaw called "the greatest generation." So, her story revealed rich history. But this particular visit was quite different and I knew somewhat to expect a rather short conversation as her family conveyed to me the news of her change in awareness and general health. When I walked into the room and saw her frail body lying their on a twin bed...eyes staring to the ceiling, my heart became heavy as I assessed her physical condition. Gently, yet with firm tone, I called her name, and what came next is the reply I will soon not forget: "Is that you, Lord..." My thoughts froze as did what seemed to be the beating in my heart. Did I hear her correctly? Surely not, I thought. So, I called her name again. "Yes, Lord," was her reply. As you can imagine, I wanted to correct her, but felt a nudge in my spirit to refrain. My time with this dear one concluded with a brief, but emotional prayer. Walking down the hall toward the exit doors of the nursing home, the rewind button of my mind must have been stuck as I heard her words over and over. What a gross misunderstanding... And, yet an unarguably spiritually attuned woman of God, well into the process of departure. Okay, she was mistaken, at least in my mind, but the challenge has stayed with me. Can you and I really be mistaken for the Lord Jesus Christ? I mean, does our approach in life so reflect the tenderness of Christ that others see more of Him than us? 2 Corinthians 3:18 says, "So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord—who is the Spirit—makes us more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image." May we cooperative with the Spirit's work in us and live to hear the greatest compliment we could be paid...

Avoiding Distractions That Can Derail Us

2010-09-21T10:32:00.000-07:00

Someone said that failure is simply broken focus. I have found that this can apply to practically every area of life. And the primary enemy to life-focus is distractions: a financial setback, a relationship gone wrong, a troubled child, a physical symptom that doesn't seem to go away, a doctor's report, a missing possession, etc. The only way to deal effectively with these various distractions is to protect your blind side - that particular part of us that can't be seen by our own eyes. Let me break it down further: We live in a fallen world, and difficulty can potentially come to anyone. But how we respond to that difficulty is the critical element! Fear can be the emotional response to anything that doesn't agree to the "blessed life" God has called us into. And, fear is the result of an unprepared heart - when distractions sideswipe us on that unguarded blind side. So, here is what we need to know today, and frankly everyday: we protect our blind side (what we can't see coming on our own) by depending solely on Father God, feeding on His Word and living with a song of thanksgiving and praise in our hearts. Our confidence is not in earthly experience but on the Word of God working in the lives of His people. Abandon yourself to that kind of trust - a thought life that reflects only on a loving Father and a good report. Focus can return and the situation can be seen from heaven's point of view. Now is the right time to open our mouths and speak the praises and promises of God!

2010 Light For the Lost Tour

2010-09-13T11:59:00.000-07:00

The historic resource of Light-For-The-Lost in providing God’s Word for every person on the planet has had a worldwide impact since it’s inception in the early 1950’s. Through the financial leadership of men and the partnership of local churches, LFTL to date has raised more than 200 million dollars. Oklahoma Assemblies of God continues to hold first place in the nation for raising the most funds for this profound, life-altering cause!
October 7th begins our LFTL tour across the great state of Oklahoma. With 15 multimedia banquet experiences over six particular evenings in October, myself along with a team of others will travel to retell the vision, share fresh-off-the-press stories and raise monies for missionary efforts and new missions projects. If you live in Oklahoma, you don't want to miss a banquet near you. For more information concerning one of these outstanding banquets, please call our office at (405)475-1190.
Let’s continue this leading legacy of light. Together, we can aggressively interrupt the destructive deeds of darkness by rushing in Light for all who are lost. Join me, and let’s turn on the light!

Going Deeper, part 3

2010-09-01T13:27:00.001-07:00

The stability of a tree is determined by the strength and depth of its root system. The stability of a man is determined by the depth of his inner self - the spirit of a man. Psalm 1 says, "Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers." The New Testament analogy to this principle is what Christ calls in John 15 as "abiding." Our inner man is limp without our connection to the Vine, Jesus Christ. The nourishment we need to maintain strength and make an impact in our generation comes from the life-giving relationship with Christ - daily! This "daily" is what produces depth. For the Christ-follower, this is not optional. Here are some dangers in living a shallow Christianity:
(1) When hard times come, we won’t be strong enough to weather them appropriately.
(2) As evil increases around us, we will miss opportunities to share the light and love of Christ.
(3) As new generations arrive on the scene, our legacy will be nothing more than second-hand Christianity.
However, the more we abide, the deeper our life becomes in Christ. And, the deeper our life, the more fruit - or, more good works are produced out of our life. John 15 tells us that bearing much fruit is a by-product of daily and deeper abiding.

So, going deeper is just that critical. Our only chance of becoming more like Christ stems from abiding and going deeper as Christ-followers. I share this prayer with John Piper. May it be yours as well:
"Lord, let me make a difference for you that is utterly disproportionate to who I am."

Going Deeper, part 2

2010-08-17T07:57:00.000-07:00

To be a Christ-follower demands depth. If the teacher and church life do not lead us into a deeper walk with Christ, the experience for us becomes nothing but social and shows little difference from anything else we might attend in the world. We are meant to be more than motivated... We must be drawn to deeper introspection and heartfelt surrender.

The Cross is what Christianity is all about! It's the ideal of giving up our fleshly wants and coming into the way of Christ: serving, loving, forgiving, giving... It's abandoning American consumerism and accepting our awesome assignment on the earth. The plan the Father has for our life doesn't agree with our flesh, but that doesn't mean that it's dry or something we should dread. We find enjoyment as we go deeper and the flesh is brought down. The glorious story of redemption is that we were bought back by the blood of Christ from the demonic strongholds of sin and into a life of liberty that enables us to say no to ungodliness and yes to the will of God. Therefore, we've been freed to be fruitful. Fruit, or a life of good works, is produced out of depth. The nutrients must get to the root system. Jesus said, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing (John 15:5)." The depth of our relationship with Christ determines the level of our life's impact in the world.

More to come...

Going Deeper

2010-08-09T13:28:00.000-07:00

On one of my recent morning prayer walks, I specifically asked the Lord for a fresh revelation... I came upon a man in my neighborhood who was watering the trees in his front yard. What I noticed was something I had seen on other occasions, but with more keenness this time. He wasn't just watering the trees but rather the leaves on his trees... As I observed more closely, I recognized that much of the leaves were brown and limping. Then came the Voice inside: "This is like many churches and church-goers. They deal only with the cosmetics of Christianity. The signs of limping leaves are all around, but the personal evaluation is shallow." The challenge is to go deeper. The man wasn't dealing with the real problem. The dying leaves on his trees weren't the problem, but the obvious sign that there was a deeper issue...the nutrients at the root system.

We've made "church" about age-appropriate programs, good music, social interaction, dynamic communicating, etc. We want to get as many people into this aspect of the church or that... But, here's the question: What about life transformation? Are more people acting like Christ?

New Resource Released!

2010-07-20T14:09:00.000-07:00

Right off the press, this resource is specifically for new Christ-followers. The guidebook comes in an easy-to-read format with four short chapters along with an introduction and conclusion. You can preview the resource at http://www.okag.org/. For questions or comments, please feel free to email me at darren.pilcher@okag.org. Also, to order copies for your ministry, please email Shirley at shirley.ophus@okag.org or you can phone our office at (405) 475-1190. Here's what church leaders are saying about RESCUED:

"I read it and believe that it would be a great asset to add to our resources. Thanks for all your efforts in putting it together. We would love to order some when they become available."

"The cover graphic is attractive and Darren has written this in a language that is fluid and approachable. I want to make Rescued the book we give to people as they respond to our altar call."

Frank Cargill, Oklahoma District Pastor, says:
"In today's world, words seem to constantly be in a state of change. Some theological terms that my generation hold sacred, fail to properly communicate with many post moderns. Specifically - salvation, new birth, regeneration, conversion, etc must be defined for individuals who have no church background. However, the grace of God reaches to all generations and across all backgrounds.
I highly encourage the use of "Rescued" as a vital and relevant tool for evangelism! It simply makes sense! New converts should be given a personal copy and encouraged to follow-through with practical steps. Altar workers in every church that believes the blood of Christ offers forgiveness from sin, should have an adequate supply of "Rescued" for counseling. This is a "tool" I highly recommend!"

Inspired by Excellence, part 2

2010-07-14T14:10:00.001-07:00

The Pebble Beach experience exposed me to taking pride in your work and working to make everything as perfect as possible, within your control. One particular incident that made me ponder this concept of excellence was watching a guy on the lawn crew mow a fairway over and over again. It looked perfect to me already. But there endeavor was to keep it looking great. This morning I asked myself 5 self-probing questions that I begin most of my days: Is my heart in ministry; is my head in planning; are my hands in the important things; is my health sustainable to my calling; is my hearing so tuned to the Spirit's voice? Going over such questions provide the type of examination that assists in keeping us on the right track. And, like the man on the mower, the value of excellence is upheld by giving maintenance to what others might think is good enough. Happy mowing...

Inspired by Excellence

2010-07-12T14:30:00.000-07:00

Recently, I was given the unique privilege of playing on one of the world's premiere golf courses - Pebble Beach. I'm not a golfer, but I love golf. So, I accepted the invitation. It was actually a Fire Bible fundraising event, which explains why I was invited. At any rate, the experience alone was noteworthy for me. One aspect I walked away with was the determined value of excellence - everywhere, from the staff personnel to the gardeners. No one was seen skipping over the details. I was impressed by that, but more...I was inspired...to look into my life and see what I could do to improve. I've taught many times on this concept of excellence. One certain teaching comes to mind: "The Better Side of Leadership." In that lesson I discuss how we can keep from allowing "good" get the "best" of us. Pat Riley said it like this: “Excellence is the gradual result of always striving to do better.” A close examination of all our life's compartments can disclose particular areas to improve. One question we can and should ask ourselves frequently is, "Am I giving all I can to what God has called me to do at this point in my life?" An email that was sent to me a number of years ago said the following: “Excellence can be obtained if you…care more than others think is wise, risk more than others think is safe, dream more than others think is practical, and expect more than others think is possible.” That's similar to the inspiration I left with from Pebble Beach. More thoughts on this in the next blog.

Family Time in Colorado

2010-06-21T07:44:00.000-07:00

Our annual family vacation led us to breathtaking Colorado. It was refreshing to take some time away with just the four of us for about 12 days. Our travels led us into Colorado Springs, Cripple Creek, Denver, Idaho Springs, Georgetown, Silver Plume, Silverthorne and concluded with the Royal Gorge in Canon City. The weather started off fairly hot and then cooled off with rain and snow in the high country. It really was magnificent to see white-capped mountains in mid June. We were also blessed to connect with some friends from the days when we lived in the Denver area. As we left for home, the scene was warmly appropriate with the sun setting over the mountians behind us. We arrived back in the middle of the week to prepare to leave again for ministry in the western part of Oklahoma. And now, forward into the busyness of the coming weeks as our minds are clearer and hearts lighter. Here are some pics from our Colorado trip.

Going After the GUYS...on Father's Day

2010-05-26T13:59:00.000-07:00

This post is particularly addressed to pastors and church leaders:
What are your plans for Father's Day this year? I've been a part of the local church all of my life...on staff with two and pastored two others. I have to admit that year after year Father's Day came and went as a day we knew would be less attended and one that the dads would be preached to (some would say "scolded") for potentially not doing a good enough job. (I'm even speaking of those many years I preached "Father's Day messages.") Well, the last two or so years, I've come to a fresh revelation of the clout the dads possess in their positions. Also, I've come to realize how feminine we have designed our churches and even the setting for our worship experiences. Could this be a contributing reason why we statistically have more women interested and involved in church life...? Here's the point: More men in the church, more families! The challenge is in appealing to the everyday man out there. Three suggestions: (1) Know what appeals to the general guy and what he's looking for in a church. (2) Survey your church facilities and ministries as it relates to your "guy" study. (3) Start with Father's Day. Hey, it's his day anyway. Turn it into an outreach opportunity. At the last church I was privileged to pastor, we had "Game Day" on Father's Day and invited everyone to dress in their favorite sports jersey. We had a one hour service. I taught on "The Game" and we then went outside for a cook-out, car show and inflatables for the kids. It turned out to be one of the best attendances of the year instead of one of the worst. Give it a whirl...and go for the guys. They've got the pull!

Child-Bearing Churches

2010-05-13T08:44:00.000-07:00

Let me cut to the chase and say that the above illustration is not my way of making a family announcement. However, I felt it would convey clearly what's on my heart... The human birth is nothing short of miraculous. Psalm 139 tells us that no child is a mistake or less than significant in the eyes of Creator God. My life has forever been impacted by the experience of the birth of my two young ones. Children are a gift from the Lord!
Some time back, I was given a sermon recording of the late Leonard Ravenhill (Evangelist from England) and just recently had a chance to listen to it on a road trip. He taught on the biblical account of Hannah praying for a child and likened her story with what it means to pray for revival. His thought continued in this analogy, that in light of Hannah's story of barrenness, he feared there were a number of churches that were "beyond the age of child-bearing." I must admit that this illustration rattled me to the core. The explanation to his dramatic description was that some churches had been contaminated with doubt that had disabled them from active service in the work of the Lord and had lost the anticipation of transformed lives - that they had come to the "age" where giving birth to children was a thing of the past. Unfortunately, I have witnessed some of those churches... It's not that they are "aged" because they've been around for a long time. There are many local assemblies with rich, long history that continue to be effective at winning the lost. It's those who have grown old in their mentality and emotionally have nothing left to give but to sit and be "fed." The energy and excitement that comes from experiencing spiritual rescues along with ground-level discipling of these new Christ-followers is void in their midst. It is my conviction that the Church (which was birthed by the Kingdom of God and not the other way around) is the primary sending agent in expanding the Kingdom on the earth. Her active service is most critical to the work of hope and grace that God has designed for the communities and cities around us. Along with that personal conviction, I believe that God can perform a miracle for any church that hasn't born children in a long time and senses barrenness. And, it comes out of the church's prayer for revival - as Evangelist Ravenhill explained in Hannah's heartfelt and persistent prayer for a son! This is my prayer: May the Holy Spirit bring a birthing of new Christ-followers even in your church...no matter how long she's been around. May there be a stirring of purpose and passion for the true work of the Lord in your midst...in Jesus' Name. I believe God can do that as we pray with fervency and focus. This is the day of the Harvest!

Reaching Men...In an Event that Speaks Their Language

2010-05-07T07:51:00.000-07:00

Archery, camouflage, wild game food, rockin’ music, and lots of hunting and fishing giveaways made up for an experience in creative church outreach. There was even a huge bass tank with a fishing demonstration from a professional. Also, a falcon trainer was invited with a live falcon. It was one of the coolest men’s events I’ve ever attended. Lawton First Assembly’s men’s ministry (M.O.B – Men of the Bible) put on their annual “Wild Game Dinner” - open only to guys! OK, let me say what it wasn’t: It wasn’t preachy, stiff or slow. Rather, it was energetic, illustrative, to the point and unapologetic in presenting the gospel truth. And, the evening closed with a high-dollar rifle giveaway. It was a true celebration of “guyness.” I was invited to meet the men and say a few words. My comments were bold, but true: “There’s really no ministry more important in the local church than men’s ministry.” I stand by those words primary because of what the statistics show. If dad can be reached, over 90 percent of the time the entire family will be reached. Applause to the M.O.B for tapping into something BIG!

Sons of Encouragement

2010-04-22T15:03:00.000-07:00

They nicknamed him "Barnabas." It wasn't his real name. The New Testament story found in Acts 4 says, “Joseph, a Levite from Cyprus, whom the apostles called Barnabas (which means Son of Encouragement), sold a field he owned and brought the money and put it at the apostles' feet.” The phrase “son of” was often used by the Hebrew and Aramaic culture as an indication of a man’s nature. In other words, they named him “Barnabas” because he was such a lid-lifter for others that it was just his nature, an overwhelming trait in his life. When Barnabas saw a need in the life of another person, being stirred by the need, he immediately began to strategize as to how he could help in that situation. So, he sold something of quality, an agricultural piece of property that he owned, nothing second-rate here…and he brought the hefty proceeds and laid it at the church leaders’ feet. The spirit of this man was superlative…it was exemplary…it was the nature of an encourager! George Burton Adams said, "There is no such thing as a 'self-made' man. We are made up of thousands of others. Everyone who has ever done a kind deed for us, or spoken one word of encouragement to us, has entered into the make-up of our character and of our thoughts, as well as our success." You and I are called to be one of those thousands! I've heard people say that stepping out and encouraging others is just not their personality. Well, it's not a personality issue. Rather, it's a spirit issue. We become a "son of encouragement" by allowing the Father-heart of God to influence our attitude and actions toward others. As you read this little encouragement, take time to ponder on those who could use your smile, your high-five, your "I believe in you, you're gonna make it" words... And, think creatively on how you can get that encouragement to them as soon as possible. I'll write more on this later...

"Where are the men..."

2010-04-13T09:06:00.000-07:00

The story of my maternal grandfather has made a substantial impact on my life. Though his untimely death in the prime of his life rattled his immediate and extended family, his legacy far outlives the grief... It's been some time back now that I was overwhelmed with a gift, a treasure from one of my uncles - my grandfather's Bible! Since then, I have showcased it on the desk in my office. It has been a great talking piece. Upon receiving this prized possession, I immediately wanted to notice any underlined Scripture portions or notes he had left inside. To my great delight, I found several articles: a couple of typed sermon note pages, a hand-written quote, and one of his ordination cards. I framed some of those articles along with an old photo of him and have hung it on my office wall. (He's the guy on the right.) One of those articles is a portion of one of his hand-typed sermons. The words leap off the page as a challenge not only to me personally but to all men: “Fatalism or a can’t-do-anything-about-the-world situation, paralyzes the Christian’s objectivity with hopelessness, helplessness and frustration.
Where are the men of faith, vision and prayer today? Who will subdue kingdoms, work righteousness, obtain promises, stop the mouths of lions (Hebrews 11:33)? Who will deny that faith will do now what faith has in the past. We have the means of victory; what folly to neglect and ignore them. The Holy Spirit is yet with us, our great leader and guide. God still answers prayers in the same old fashion way. Let us not discount by our unbelief the victory of Him who cannot life. God is challenging us to a life of victory and answered prayer.”

Strong Men

2010-04-07T07:14:00.000-07:00

The impressive abilities of strong men... Some are strong to run while others are strong to stand. There are strong men for building and strong men for tearing down. How many times the jar of strawberry preserves was handed to the stronger member of the family to open, or the call to four guys for moving furniture from one location to another... There's always a season for men of strength. Every man wants to be numbered among the strong. Every boy wants to be recognized as strong by other men (especially by his dad).
But the need for men of emotional and spiritual strength is even greater. With that in mind, I was shaken to the core this morning by something I read in my devotional time. Proverbs 7 declares a stern warning to men of all ages and walks of life. It's the warning against the adulteress. Though I've read this chapter dozens of times, the words in verses 24-27 grabbed my heart like the grip of a strong man's hand around my wrist. I've come to realize that the grip was the strong hand of the Holy Spirit. It says, "Now therefore, listen to me, my children; pay attention to the words of my mouth: do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, do not stray into her paths; for she has cast down many wounded, and all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death." The Scripture says that all of them who were slain by the wayward woman were "strong men." Here's the point: Strength can be deceiving. It can make us believe that we've got everything under control. So, what's the answer to all of us who claim to be strong? First, we must never claim to be strong enough. Secondly, we strengthen ourselves daily in the One who is always strong, Jesus Christ. We do that by spending time reading the Gospels and the letters of the New Testament and thinking on its truths along with surrendering ourselves in prayer to Father God. We don't have to be caught off guard, blindsided by penetrating arrows in the weak places of our lives. Here's the encouragement from Scripture: "For when I am weak, then I am strong" (2 Corinthians 12:10). Real men of strength are strong in the Lord Jesus Christ!

Defeating the Funk

2010-03-25T07:19:00.000-07:00

We've all come across people who have found themselves stuck in a rut of discouragement. Frankly, there's been times I've found myself there. Well, it's not fun and overcoming it can sometimes seem like scaling Mt. Everest. At any rate, it can be done and furthermore, we are intended to come out of it. There are several experiences that have helped me get over those seasons: (1) counting my blessings and being truly grateful for what I do have or don't have, for that matter; (2) getting attached to some Scriptural confessions that speak positively against the negative situation; (3) changing up my routine so that I see things from a different perspective... Let me add a fourth: SERVING OTHERS who can't personally give me back anything in return! To illustrate, I was dealing with a difficult number of months in a church I pastored. It was one of those seasons of funk with lots of misunderstandings and misstatements. An opportunity came along that I felt impressed to latch on to. It was shortly after Hurricane Katrina hit and relief efforts were well under way. I made contact with Convoy of Hope, one of those relief organizations, to see how a team from our church could help. Plans then came together to take a small group that I chose to lead down to a coastal area in Mississippi. For several days we went from handing out food and removing limps from roofs to tearing out water-damaged carpet and sheet rock in homes. We sleep in sleeping bags on the floor in a local church. It was exhilarating! And, long story short, I came back more encouraged and fueled for the coming days. This experience along with the other methods above enabled a huge turning point for me personally and my ministry.
Consider where you are right now... Maybe you're in that funk. You can come out. Try some of these suggestions, and I believe your emotional direction will change for the good as well.

A Good Word for Today and Everyday!

2010-03-08T13:17:00.000-08:00

This picture is hanging in my office at the district. A gift from a young friend at the church I recently pastored, the words are good to reflect on everyday. It could easily be personalized into a daily confession. Here's what it says:

"Just think, you're here

not by chance, but by

God's choosing.

HIS HAND

formed you and made

you the person you are.

He compares you to no

one else - You are one

of a kind. You lack

nothing that

HIS GRACE

can't give you. He has

allowed you to be here at

this time in history

to fulfill

HIS SPECIAL

PURPOSE

for this generation."

~ Roy Lessin

The Church Ministries Network

2010-03-01T08:24:00.000-08:00

Michelle and I have been afforded a blessed opportunity and awesome challenge in this new role of Church Ministries director for the Oklahoma District. Many have asked, "So, what does this new ministry area mean...and, what do you guys do over there?" Because this division is new not only to us but to the district, it's been advantageous for a crafting of purpose and mission. Three words come to mind when considering this multi-faceted area: SERVE, PARTNER, NETWORK.

SERVE
We exist to serve first and foremost! We are here to offer and provide resources. Some of the resources for adult ministries of the local church will be what we come across that seem healthy and progressive while others we have already begun to write and develop. They will come in printed materials and training events.
Other events provided will be such as the following: men's and women's retreats and conferences that candidly address current gender issues, marriage encounters to strengthen the home, missions trips for ministers and the local church, leadership and discipleship seminars to encourage more effective ministry.

PARTNER
We are fully aware that there are many local churches and ministries that have effective materials and events already in place. Our role is to come alongside and help promote these experiences. The purpose for the Church Ministries Network is not to see how many people we can get sold on our resources. Rather, we are here to be a promoter and lid-lifter for and to the local church and the ministries around our great state. We desire to live by the mantra How can we help you?

NETWORK
Collaboration is a primary part of what we do at the Church Ministries level. The knowledge and creative ideas for ministry and furthering God's Kingdom is wide and vast across our fellowship. Our efforts individually become more effective when we take time to hear and learn from one another. In other words, you can help my ministry and I can help yours. Therefore, we value your opinions, your ideas, your feedback.

Looking forward to serving, partnering and networking with you, your ministry and local church. Please feel free to contact us here at our Church Ministries office at (405) 475-1190.

2010-02-22T18:07:00.000-08:00

Find a Bible that's falling apart, and you'll find a man that's not.

2010-02-12T08:53:00.000-08:00

I’ve read the books and heard the stats on the decreasing effectiveness of the church and thus the growing disinterest of our culture… And, if we aren’t careful, we will start believing every disdainful word and criticism the world has for these places we serve. I just can’t buy all of it. With the many churches that aren’t on the right track, there are just as many that are…and frankly, God loves all of them, and His passion for them is what caused the most dramatic and historic giving of gifts ever: the five-fold ministry of the Church. The book of Ephesians chapter 4 lists them - apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors, and teachers. The person who's called to any of these offices can begin to fill a little puffed up and overly significant. The same passage of Scripture tells us that these positions are not for any other reason but that the body of Christ may be built up.
The church does not exist to build our ego or a business on the side… It’s not a platform for developing professional speaking, or a plethora of connections and friendships… We are here to build Christ’s kingdom by building Christ’s church. Period! The five offices are legitimized by the purpose for which they are called… It’s not about territorialism or honor. The day of the superstar is long been over. There is only one superstar, the One who loved the church and gave Himself up for her…JESUS CHRIST!
We can fall in love with the Church again when we realize who it's about. We can pick up on the good points in local congregations, capitalizing on the positives when we are not out to impress or perform for selfish reasons. Sure, there will be time for critical analysis, but let's spend more time on what God is doing and has done among us...all for His glory. Amen!

2010-02-10T08:54:00.000-08:00

She said she didn't love the church anymore…or at least the only church she really ever knew. I sat in my office as the newly elected pastor, listening intently to this emotionally checked-out parishioner. As tears coursed down her face, smearing mascara in the corner of her eyes, she shared with me heartbreak the many years of unresolved issues and hurts caused her. She was transparent and yet guarded at the same time. I couldn't disagree with her reasons nor deny that they were justifiable. But at that moment and immediately after visiting with her, I made it my mission to see that those I pastored loved their church with a passion. Granted, I had some dramatic ups and downs…

As ministers of the gospel, this work we are called to is bigger than really anything we can imagine. My dad has told me many times that the call of God is the highest calling. And, I can’t find anywhere in Scripture that the calling of God is separate from His passion for the local church. John Stott, in his book The Living Church: Convictions of a Lifelong Pastor, wrote these profound words: “The church lies at the center of the eternal purpose of God. It is not a divine afterthought. It is not an accident of history. On the contrary, the church is God’s new community. For his purpose, conceived in a past eternity, being worked out in history, and to be perfected in a future eternity, is not just to save isolated individuals and so perpetuate our loneliness, but rather to build his church, that is, to call out of the world a people for his own glory.” I propose that we need to fall in love with the local church all over again... More on this later.

Councils, a Conference and More Councils

2010-02-06T19:29:00.000-08:00

It's been a bit of a different schedule for me as of late. I'm accustomed to connecting throughout the week for the most part with a particular church body and building relationships with one particular ministry team. With this new season, the stretch of further arenas with more people to know and connect with is the experience. I am enjoying it because I love people. People are my business and hobby. I'd rather be with family and friends than do anything else.
So, this part of a new season is totally energizing. My first responsibility has been to personally connect with pastors, missionaries and ministers around the Oklahoma District. Last Monday began sectional councils for the ministers of our state. From the rural areas to the larger communities, it has been a joy to see firsthand the ministry sites of faithful pastors and learn more about their surroundings. This tour continues on Monday. Last Thursday and ending today (Saturday) I was privileged to attend one of our national fellowship's conferences - another opportunity to meet and get to know more leaders from across the nation. Someone said, "You will be the same person you are five years from now except for two things: the people you meet and the books you read." So true... Looking forward to further connections.

A New Chapter

2010-01-25T18:49:00.001-08:00

Michelle and I have been most privileged to have pastored one of the great churches in our city and among our fellowship of churches - Highpointe Church. What we have learned and enjoyed over the past five and a half years will go with us for the rest of our lives. Our hearts are so full from the many expressions toward us over these last few weeks.
Today officially begins a new chapter in our lives... Michelle and I have accepted the position as directors of Church Ministries for the Oklahoma District of the Assemblies of God. This particular area involves the oversight of adult discipleship, leadership training, marriage enrichment, men's and women's ministries and the like for the local church. We are honored by this new season and are believing for the very best. As for my blog, I will pick up soon with a fresh look and reflections on the roles, concepts and goals of this new assignment. Thanks for reading. Stay tuned...

How Are You Storing Your Stuff?

2009-11-25T13:15:00.000-08:00

There seems to be a bit of irony to the fact that we have new construction of storage units right next door to our church… According to the Self Storage Association, the country now possesses some nearly 2 billion square feet of personal storage. All this space is contained in nearly 40,000 facilities owned and operated by more than 2,000 entrepreneurs, including a handful of publicly traded giants. What is all this craziness about? We Americans enjoy our stuff and are running out of room to store it. Scripture challenges us in this regard. Jesus Himself said in Matthew 6:20, “Store up for yourselves treasures in heaven where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.” The battle continues to rage between materialism and missions, greed and the spread of the gospel. Consider what you can do without for the sake of another dollar towards the more valuable matter - eternity!

Shatter the Salt-Shaker

2009-11-17T18:25:00.000-08:00

Do you want to make a difference...really? Jesus said of His followers in Matthew 5, "You are the salt of the earth." Salt is meant to make a difference. Salt stimulates thirst, it preserves and it flavors food. For the Christ-follower, we are meant to stimulate thirst, influence moral decision-making, and make the gospel message flavorable in a sexual culture. However, salt is no good unless it comes out of the salt-shaker. The same is true of Christ-followers... Proximity determines impact. So, shatter the salt-shaker - get into the lives that need you today.

The Family of God

2009-11-09T19:01:00.000-08:00

How do you view others in the body of Christ? I know, some are so different than we are... But the world of Christ-followers encompasses a whole lot of diversity - from Bangkok to Bangor, Maine...from Seattle to Santiago, Chile. A fresh thought has entered my heart as of late...the Family of God. It's still developing within me. Here's what's there so far: (1) We need to learn to appreciate what we have in our family heritage. There's no need to worry about shaking the proverbial family tree too hard... Grace will come forth. (2) We need to learn the importance of rightfully acknowledging other family members. The business of the believer is brotherhood, caring and loving those who belong to the family of God. (3) We need to anticipate our family inheritance. The Epistles are filled with the writings of expectant saints. The wish of the Christ-follower is not that a certain wealthy uncle will pass on so that we can get our share of the estate. Our inheritance is stored up for us in heaven where it can never spoil, be cheated from us or fade away.
One last word on this emerging truth: Remember the Persecuted Church, our brothers and sisters in other parts of the world who suffer for the Name of Christ. Sonship means suffering for the many who stand unashamed to be named among the family of God. They deserve our passionate prayers and faithful stand...

Stoke the Spark

2009-10-12T07:16:00.000-07:00

I'm challenged by a particular passage of Scripture in 2 Timothy chapter 1. Paul writes to Timothy that because of the sincere faith that he sees in him, "...to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline." What happens so often is that sincere faith can become too stoic, meaning that we can be solid in holding to the gospel message, but not use it to make a difference around us... In other words, a sincere faith that needs to be stoked. And, furthermore, timidity is not just a personality trait... It can be everyone's obstacle, coming from the natural progression inward from outward inactivity. So, Paul says to Timothy that God has given us the spirit of power, love and self-discipline to overcome that spirit of timidity within us. The fire just needs to be stoked...!

OK, so I'm thinking of my own life and how I can stay stoked this week about the greatness of God within me to make a difference. Maybe this practical list will help you too.

1. Set some goals for the week.

2. Work with a testimony in mind.

3. Refrain from any negative talk.

4. Choose a praise partner (someone to rejoice with you as God works through you and them).

5. Find a venue to exercise your gift.

6. Do something positive outside of your comfort zone.

7. Count your blessings.

If you are a Christ-follower, there is something in you, sometimes it's nothing more than a spark. But stoke a spark in the right environment, and watch out, we've got ourselves a flame.

So, LET'S GET STOKED about what God wants to do through us this week!

Heaven's Degree Program

2009-10-08T07:57:00.000-07:00

A fascinating Scripture portion to me is found in Acts 4:13...where Peter and John have been used of God to bring healing to a lame man, and questioned by the religious leaders as to how and in what Name they performed this miracle. The verse is a response by the religious leaders to the courage of these men of God. It reads, "When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus." Well, the fact is that these men were not really unschooled, ordinary men. Yes, they were unschooled in the sense of not having sat under a prestigious Jewish school, but THEY HAD BEEN WITH JESUS. They were schooled and unordinary by way of what they learned and Who they learned it from. It was truly an "ah ha" moment for their antagonists... They recognized them as ones they remembered seeing with Jesus.
And, that's what makes the difference in any situation...whether it's a need for the miraculous, a sense of wisdom in a tough decision, or strength for the day's responsibilities. When you boil it down, you can have all the education the world has to offer while being exposed to the cultures in those certain places, but if you've not been under the tutelage of Christ, the mountain will still be in the way. Heaven's Degree Plan is sitting at the feet of the Master Teacher, Jesus Christ!

Valuing a Higher Power

2009-09-23T08:36:00.000-07:00

Have you ever jumped to conclusions...or acted on a knee-jerk reaction? OK...It would be safe to say that we all have at one time or another. Here's the key that I've found to walk a little slower in significant decisions...: Valuing a Higher Power - of course, that Higher Power being the Presence of the Almighty God. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take." This is the key, for sure. And, here are some benefits I've found to doing just that: perspective (seeing it the way God sees it - the bigger picture); perseverance (going the distance to make a difference - not giving up); passion (not loosing your heart in the process of decision-making); priorities (focused on what's most important); perimeters (keeping weaknesses at bay). These same benefits are also indicators - that when one is missing, waiting in God's Presence is needed. Remember: Your potential is as great as your surrender; the greater your surrender, the great your potential. Now, value that Higher Power by seeking His guidance over yours...and go, make a difference!

Lessons I Learned from Going in the Wrong Direction Down the Wrong Road

2009-09-16T06:40:00.000-07:00

Back in 2007, Michelle and I decided to go to the beach at South Padre for family vacation. Some friends of ours introduced us to an Internet company that could save us some money on nice accommodations. The only drawback was what the terms and conditions stated, that once the reservations were made, it was non-transferable and non-refundable, no matter what. At any rate, we decided to take the risk. Upon what we thought was our destination, our young ones (5 and 4 years old) had just finished their umpteenth video-watching. When I walked into the hotel, excited about the surroundings, I found that they did not have a reservation for me. Frustrated, I asked them to check other spellings, etc. Finally, they asked where I was headed. I said, "1000 South Padre Blvd.". They said that I was at 1000 Padre Blvd., and that I was 3 1/2 hours from South Padre. Needless to say, it was an emotional moment when I had to return to the car and tell Michelle the dreadful news. But, due to the nature of our reservations being non-transferable and non-refundable, we headed down the road to arrive at our "final destination" after 1 the next morning...with the words from the front desk, "So, you must be Mr. Pilcher..."
OK...so here's a list of lessons I've learned thus far from that difficult experience:
(1) Not all roads lead to South Padre…
(2) For all practical purposes, there’s really only one direction to South Padre: further south!
(3) Good intentions don’t get you to South Padre.
(4) When your reservation is non-transferable and non-refundable, it doesn’t matter how far you’ve come in the wrong direction, on the wrong road…if you’re not there yet, you’re profoundly not there.
(5) If you’re not at your proper destination, no amount of emotions will change your course. If you make the proper course corrections, abandon an elevated ego and get on the right road, going in the right direction, your reservation will be secure.

Vacation Reflections

2009-08-24T17:01:00.001-07:00

I have finally sat down to look through our family's vacation pics. Just reflecting on the experiences was relaxing in itself, especially after arriving back to a long list of catch up and prep for the fall months. Everyone needs a time to relax, refresh, and refocus. Here's some photos from our trip to Clearwater Beach and Disney World. More to see on my facebook page...

An Itchin' for Fishin'

2009-07-18T14:36:00.000-07:00

I know that these pics will come as a shock to many out there, but it's true...no trick-photography. A buddy and I went one evening this week and hit a few farm ponds. I don't do a lot of fishin'...as a matter of fact, it's been a long time. But for some strange reason, I got an itchin' for fishin'. So, off we went...hoping for good weather. WOW! We said it must have been the favor of heaven. On our way to these ponds, clouds started rolling in and the temperature dropped a total of 20 degrees. A little sprinkle of rain and some change in the climate...and whammo...the fish are bitin', baby.
You know, life as a Christ-follower is a lot like the desire to fish to catch something: You can bait properly, hit the right ponds, wear the proper attire and have every expectation to catch what you are fishing for. But, if the Lord isn't in it...I mean, if the Spirit of God doesn't blow (I like to call it the weather of the Spirit), what we do falls helplessly to ineffectiveness. The Apostle Paul said that it wasn't with eloquent speaking ability that he won folks over, but rather the demonstration of God's power. So, that twenty degrees did make a difference...eight bass in all. We filleted 'em...and are planning for a big fish fry coming soon!

Consumed by a Clear Call - Part 2

2009-07-02T14:58:00.001-07:00

The latter part of 2008 was marked for me by one of the most clear revelations from God that I have experienced. I was on one of my prayer walks around our church's property. It seems that every time I pray about our church and the need for fresh direction, my time in prayer intensifies. As I continued to walk and pray, I posed a question to the Lord in regards to the relevance of signs and wonders today (a personal frustration I was dealing with). It was without any hesitation...as a matter of fact, the Voice I heard seemed to overlap the question. And, this is the revelation that came from the Voice I heard: I have called your church to be a sending church...into neighborhoods, networks and nations...as the agent for spiritual change and eternal impact. This revelation has since marked everything we do as a church. Our Catalyst School of Ministry began in early spring to train Christ-followers (the Church) to be sent out as witnesses into their neighborhoods, into networks (their places of business, the workplace), and nations. This is the call from the book of Acts as the early Church came to be and took form. And, as those first Christ-followers were salt and light, the Church continued to grow, changing destinies, influencing the marketplace, and ultimately impacting the world...to fulfill the words of Jesus before His death, burial, resurrection and ascension: "I will build my Church and the gates of hell will not prevail against it." This IS the calling of higher living at Highpointe! Let's embrace it and embody it together, Highpointe Community, and invite others into it...as we live consumed by a clear call.

Consumed by a Clear Call

2009-06-29T17:22:00.000-07:00

It was at a New York Missions conference in 1900 that Andrew Murray said these words: "Things cannot go on as they are if the world is really to be evangelized in this generation." I have been in many worship experiences where the challenge has gone out to answer the "call" and fulfill the "Great Commission." As a matter of fact, I have heard that challenge more times than I can count. And...then, life happens: schedules, responsibilities, roles to play, people to see, places to go... Wow, how quickly I can forget what's most important, why I've been saved, my eternal reason for being. But, "things cannot go on as they are" if a heavenly impact is to be made on those around us. When I stop and think about it, I am overwhelmed at the thought that an All-Sufficient, All-Wise God chose to use me to get the Word out about His grace and love for all mankind. So, the idea is to stop, think about it more often, and step into this serious business of being that messenger...to the point of being consumed by it. I feel it - it's burning again. Thank you, Lord. More later...

A Ladder from Dad

2009-05-04T17:05:00.000-07:00

It's been a few years ago, not sure exactly when it happened... I guess it was on one of the trips that we take to Dallas throughout the year to see Dad and Mom. At any rate, on one of those occasions, Dad and I were in his garage looking through some boxes full of childhood memories. I noticed an old ladder leaning up against a file cabinet and asked him about it. He said it was a ladder he had owned for a long time...and then offered for me to pack it up and take it home when we left. Of course I tried to talk him out of that offer, but no persuading him. As a matter of fact, he said that I needed it more than he did. Well...I've taken good use of that old wooden ladder. Not too long ago I was up changing some outside lights when I noticed an inscription written on the very top of the ladder that led me to believe that Dad had it in his possession way back before he married. Last week as I was preparing some thoughts welling up in me for Sunday morning's teaching, something quite profound dropped into my spirit...and it had everything to do with that old wooden ladder. Dad really wanted me to have that ladder...probably for at least a couple of reasons: It had been his for a long time, and the sentimental value was there, so he wanted me to have it. Secondly, it served him well over the years doing the odd jobs that required some height. None of this would really mean a great deal to blog about without the impression of the Holy Spirit. And, that's just it... It was the message of heaven I received: Darren, just like your Dad wanted you to have a tool that would give you some height, the Father wants you to go higher...to see things from a perspective that He has enjoyed for eternity. Use the Tool of His Word with the promises that are meant to be fulfilled in your life. Stay encouraged and hope higher.

Hey, the Father wants you to see things from His perspective, too. So, yea, go ahead...climb the ladder and hope higher.

"Those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." Isaiah 40:31

Hope Higher

2009-05-01T12:23:00.000-07:00

Lost jobs. Foreclosed homes. Swine flu outbreaks. Serial killings. Terrorist threats. Health Care concerns. Fires and weather-related devastations. Wow...nationally, the news isn't good. As a matter of fact, there's very little good news to be heard lately. And, coupled with these potentially-depressing facts is the personal issues of home and relationships: Sicknesses and care-giver stresses; fragmented families; broken commitments; financial indebtedness... On and on it can go. The point of this blog is not to get you or me discouraged at these lists of challenges. Rather, the idea is to help us to realize anew the importance of having hope and actually knowing where this hope comes from. Throughout the month of May (excluding Mother's Day), we will be sharing from Isaiah 40, an intensely encouraging collection of truth spoken by God through this Old Testament prophet. The application will reacquaint the listener with fresh hope and enable this positive infection to spread. (And, we need this kind of infection in our world.) So, if you or someone you know needs fresh hope, join us this Sunday morning, May the 3rd, at Lakeside, as we look into this practical teaching on how to hope higher.

Kingdom Work!

2009-04-21T15:29:00.000-07:00

What thrills me more than anything is doing something wothwhile, of eternal significance that gets little credit and applause from others. It's all about working behind the scenes in the Kingdom of God. Last Saturday, at Vida Victoriosa (our Spanish Church plant, pastored by Martin and Clarissa Urbina), it was all about Kingdom fun with a soccer outreach, prizes and food. I'm so blessed by what I see rising up within our Lakeside family to be and do "church." This is what it's all about. And, I am so looking forward to more of this good Kingdom work! Straight ahead!!!

Now It Begins...

2009-04-14T15:20:00.000-07:00

Well, by now, you are a good distance into your week of work and responsibilities...what could be seen as another run of the normal. But is it really? I mean, after a weekend of the most important of celebrations for the Christ-follower... Though, here in Oklahoma City, the rain came down in torrents, flooding the gutters and low-lying areas, giving us a good head start for the spring season, spoiling our outside egg hunts. However, the sun was shining brightly for those who could celebrate...those who knew what it was to celebrate. I like the way Leonard Sweet put it: On Easter "It is finished" becomes "Now it begins." So, before you allow the work week to collapse in your lap, bringing a load to your mind and heart, consider the new beginning that this season represents, the "aliveness" of Christ in and through you...because...it begins anew for you right now. Breathe it in... Today is truly the beginning of the rest of your life because of the Resurrection! It's life, abundant life!!! ENJOY!

Passion Week...in a word

2009-04-07T15:47:00.000-07:00

Deep. Intimate. Friends. Love. Fellowship. Food. Share. Water. Basin. Towel. Stoop. Wash. Feet. Explain. Difficult. Misunderstood. Explain. Expression. Example. Bread. Wine. Body. Blood. Sad. Heavy. Dark. Evil. Betrayer. Silver. Night. Garden. Prayer. Intense. Kiss. Betrayed. Guards. Outbreak. Defense. Sword. Ear. Blood. Healed. Healer. Ropes. Bound. Sanhedrin. Questioned. Hit. Mocked. Spit. Beard. Denied. Once. Twice. Thrice. Morning. Accused. Innocent. Prisoner. Release. Custom. Guilty. Acquitted. Innocent. Sanhedrin. Soldiers. Flogged. Metal. Bone. Flesh. Ripped. Torn. Blood. Agony. Thirty-nine. Thorns. Brow. Pain. Mocked. Beam. Carry. Pushed. Hill. Hammer. Nails. Hands. Excruciating. Blood. Nail. Feet. Unbearable. Blood. Cross. Hung. Crowd. Sign. King. Forgiveness. Darkness. Forsaken. FINISHED. Death. Sword. Blood. Water. Curtain. Split. Earthquake. Evening. Burial. Stone. Sealed. Secure. Guard. Waiting...

My Best Buddy Got Married...FINALLY!

2009-03-19T07:46:00.000-07:00

Kurtis Ivey and Kit Coffin came into wedded bliss on March 7th, 2009. They were engaged for many months and finally the big day arrived. Kurtis and I have been friends since 1992. We met at Southwestern Assemblies of God University (what was known back then as "College")...and were roommates for a school year. And, we have been best buds for all these years...with lots in common, namely the Ministry. We've had an outstanding friendship that has remained strong throughout many transitions: college graduation, my marriage to Michelle, geographical relocations, etc. And, what's so cool is now we live just miles from one another (which means lots of coffee, mall runs, and occasional golf games). At any rate, Kurtis and Kit met some time ago through a ministry opportunity. Neither have been married before as God has obviously kept them for each other. So...here's a big shout out to my best bud and his gal: CONGRATS...AND THE BEST OF HEALTH, STRENGTH, FAVOR, ANOINTING TO YOU BOTH!!!

Your Greatest Contact

2009-03-12T09:12:00.000-07:00

They’re stored in emails…and on cell phones. They’re important for business and pleasure. It’s what any successful salesperson needs and any faithful friend has. They are called…contacts. It’s a network of information and associations. Someone said it like this: “You’ll be the same person you are five years from now accept for two things: the books you read and the people you meet.” Contacts are valuable to everyday life. Thus the creation of Facebook…the privilege of "friends" that you didn't know you even had or lost contacts from long ago. (Remember when it was the "Rolodex"?)

There’s nothing like having them ready at a moment’s notice. And nothing can be more frustrating when there’s one that can’t be found. It’s immeasurable what lengths most would take to get the real significant contacts.
But it doesn’t matter how many you have or who you have listed in your personal address book, if the most important isn’t there, the others don’t matter. Contact with the infinite Creator of the universe is the most powerful, challenging, and rewarding experience available to mankind. And that contact comes by praying. Someone said that a life of prayer is a life of continual contact with Eternal God, all that He is and all that He wills for His creation.

And, what's so cool about this Contact... He's always available at a moment's notice!